Feel a bit embarrassed

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My in laws have DD for the afternoon. This morning was manic (it was DDs birthday yesterday) and so I hadn't eaten. By nearly 3 I was starving so popped into a coffee shop armed with a magazine and bought and ate a sandwich an cup of tea. I was still hungry and thirsty too so I went up for a cake, leaving my magazine on the table (te coffee place was empty apart from myself and an elderly couple.)

The girl who was serving chimed with "hello! Is your frien joining you?" I looked around all confused and made some "gahgarl?" noise! She then said "you were up before!" I nod probably looking really thick. "I wondered I someone was joining you!"

I'm sat with my cake now and they are giggling behind the counter.

Umm is it not the done thing to drink coffee alone? I always do!

yanbu - I love having a tea/ cake / pint alone with a good book or a newspaper and never worry about and have never been made to feel wierd about it. Tonight I am off to the local pub for the pub quiz (not alone I am part of a team!) but I plan to go early to savour a bit of alone time, get a good table and enjoy my pint.

Men do it all the time and I don't see why I cannot.

The silly waitress was being rude and presumptuous please don't let her spoil your day.

unless it was a sandwich made from a entire loaf of bread with 11 side dishes then I dont see what is odd about still being hungry / snacky and wanting cake..

oddodd odd person op enjoy your cake

Was it a comment on what you were eating (2 trips to counter), rather than the fact that you were alone? Still ridiculous and bitchy to comment at all, of course, but sniggering at someone eating alone is just too bizarre for words.
Hope you enjoyed the cake

YANBU. If I had an afternoon to myself (Velcro baby, DH working abroad, no family nearby = fat chance) my choice of thing to do would be coffee, kindle, sandwich AND CAKE in a coffee shop!

I hope they didn't ruin your enjoyment.

I'm sure the manager would be furious to think the staff were putting customers off buying cakes and sandwiches. I do think the girls were referring to the fact you had two things. Vile things!

I would say she was trying to make smalltalk as the cafe was so quiet... you had ordered something already, that for all she knew was still sat there... so she was just asking if someone was joining you.. no big deal.

As for giggling with her mate.. it is a coffee shop, not a funeral parlour, is it a sacking offence to be happy while at work?

You sound a bit paranoid OP!

Never go into a coffee shop with anyone. Friends would want to talk dc will annoy me and dh is inpatient.

That is me time where I can sit with a good book have cake and coffee :)

I haven't done it for a few years but I used to love going to the pub on my own in the afternoon for a pint and a read of the newspaper. I always used to get the most looks from the old geezers round the bar - how could a woman want to do such a thing on her own?

Stupid girls. If I were their manager I would want to know. I would welcome a customer who enjoyed my food, and felt comfortable enough in my establishment to spend time, have lunch, cake and coffee, and be furious that brainless members of staff took that away. Write and complain.

I would have thought that the magazine was a giveaway that you wanted to be alone. What odd girls.

Is it possible she was actually just mistakenly trying to make conversation & then just laughing in an embarrassed way?

I more often than not drink coffee alone, with my Kindle. It is bliss. YANBU they are being silly billys.

Go in again next week and buy a cake, sandwich and tripple chocolate, marshmallow super deluxe drink all at once (oh and a bowl of soup.) They may or may not be working together but look them in the eye and say:
"This is all for me. I just thought I'd tell you incase you feel the need to ask if I'm sharing it. Is that ok with you?"

Actually, don't give them a second thought. They are idiots and their teenage figures won't be with them forever!

Although, There is the possibility that she was just trying to be friendly and embarrassed herself when she realised she'd inadvertently been rude. She may have been giggling with her collegue in a "oh my God, what have I just said?" kind of way!! :)

Exactly kitty

YABU because you should have said "Did you mean to be so rude?". you empty headed slappers

I hope you didn't leave them a tip apart from how to fuck off to the far side of fuck