Large numbers of (mainly female) mumsnetters post on a thread about their acts of physical violence in the home when angry. The tone of the thread is 'this is normal, we all lose it now and again'. However if any post mentioned a man carrying out these acts, the response would on the whole be 'domestic violence, run away to a refuge'.
Mumsnetters frequently post about their unpleasant behaviour towards their children, the response is usually 'we've all been there, you are a good mum'. However there are also multiple posts about 'narcissistic' or abusive mothers (of grown up mumsnetters), and these abusive mothers are roundly criticised and treated with little understanding.
It is a given on the relationships forum that if a man is having an affair, he has absolutely no genuine emotional connection with the OW. In fact he merely views the OW as a 'hole' to screw, and if it wasn't with her, it would be with someone else. However women frequently post that they are having EA or fully fledged affairs with someone, and their feelings are acknowledged as real and sympathy worthy (albeit unacceptable to act upon).
Women are on the whole allowed to post criticisms of mens physiques, small penis, beer belly or whatever without comeback. But if a woman posts that her partner has mentioned her less flattering features, he is an emotional abuser.
Now I am someone who has thrown things in anger, been unpleasant to my children, been cheated on, been unfaithful myself and been disappointed in a new partners physique. Because I am a real person and people are generally a mixture of pleasant / unpleasant, giving / selfish etc etc etc. But why is mumsnet normally so black and white about these everyday matters?
So AIBU to think that mumsnet would benefit from more posters who have a more rounded view of how humans behave and think, rather than a tired old stock of library responses.