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AIBU?

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to think that my sister should not be able to reserve a list of baby names for her own later use, whe she is neither pregnant nor TTC?

37 replies

sharklet · 30/06/2012 18:57

Am 38 wks pg. Sis has a 8 month old girl. Have found it really hard to find names DH and I agree on for a boy. Love name Issac, sis thinks it is for her exclusive use. She jokes with me about have I found a name I can actually use yet.. but she has made it clear through my mum how angry and upset she would be if I used this name. She has others too for girls and boys that she belives she has bagged. GGrrrr it is very frustrating.

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PunkChick · 30/06/2012 18:59

SIBU. Choose whatever YOU & DH want. xXx

HecateHarshPants · 30/06/2012 18:59

Use the name you want and ignore her. Nobody bags a name.

Don't tell her in advance, just register the baby the name of your choice and if she spits out her dummy, say oh my god, I assumed you were joking! You aren't pregnant and aren't trying, it never occurred to me that you were serious that there were names I actually could not use just in case you wanted to use one of them!"

And don't apologise.

rubyslippers · 30/06/2012 19:00

It's irrational - anyone can use any name and you can't have dibs on

isaac is increasing in popularity

She may never have a boy either ...

Why is she so hung up on names?

JustFabulous · 30/06/2012 19:00

This is why you should never discuss names until it is for an announcement.

It would be bitchy to use it on purpose when you like other names but if it really is the only name you like... is it, really?

Sirzy · 30/06/2012 19:00

Use the names you like. If you sister wants to sulk about a name then she needs to grow up but my betting is when the baby is born she will most likely get caught up in the excitement and not be bothered (unless she is normally an unreasonable person anyway!)

G1nger · 30/06/2012 19:01

Tell her to sod right off. No, no... just act as though she should. Yanbu.

ToxicMoxie · 30/06/2012 19:01

YANBU to think she is being a cow. Name the kid whatever you like, if he/she ends up with the same name as a cousin, well, worse things have happened!
I'm guessing your ds doesn't want to seem like the person who couldn't think of her own name.

And no, she can't reserve a name, it's not like calling shotgun or dibs!

AnyoneForTennis · 30/06/2012 19:02

Put her on the spot...., ask her dp what HE thinks.

TidyDancer · 30/06/2012 19:02

Unless she has a very good reason for wanting that name, then YANBU.

AThingInYourLife · 30/06/2012 19:02

Don't call your baby Issac.

DublinMammy · 30/06/2012 19:02

Your sister is being totally irrational and unreasonable. You can't "bags" a name, utter nonsense. Call your baby whatever you like and if she goes mad follow Hecate's advice.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 30/06/2012 19:04

Issac would be fine if she's going to call hers Isaac

manicbmc · 30/06/2012 19:05

She has an 8 month old girl, isn't ttc and has 'bagged' Issac? Odd woman. She might not even have a boy.

Tell her to bugger off.

sharklet · 30/06/2012 19:06

she thinks she has rights to it as she is a scientist and Issac Newton was too....

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goodygumdrops · 30/06/2012 19:06

You can use the name. But so can she if she has a boy in the future.

CharlotteLucas · 30/06/2012 19:07

To be honest, it makes no difference whether or not she's pregnant or trying to conceive! You simply can't reserve a name by shouting 'Bags I!' - especially via your mother. How old is your sister - five?

That name-bagging stuff (which I've never come across in real life, but only heard of on Mn) always makes me think of a bossy little girl naming her dolls and telling her sidekick little girls she'll squeal and stamp her foot of they call their dollies the same thing.

PunkChick · 30/06/2012 19:07

So was Albert Einstein, so is Stephen Hawking....mind boggles xXx

Ilovedaintynuts · 30/06/2012 19:07

Never tell people your names before the baby is born and named!

No, she can't reserve a name but it is extremely mean spirited to use a name you KNOW someone close toyou is heart set on using.

I have a cousin who loved the name Luke all her life, I also liked it and when I had a DS I never even considered it as I felt it was hers. She has since had a DS and called him Luke.

It's just decent isn't it? However if someone is claiming lots of names then that's ridiculous.

manicbmc · 30/06/2012 19:08

She's a scientist with no logical thought processes at all?

Even more odd.

In what way is she a scientist? Does she work in Boots? Hmm

PunkChick · 30/06/2012 19:08

Is her daughter named after a scientist, just out of interest? xXx

G1nger · 30/06/2012 19:08

This reminds me- my sister warned my other sister off the name Megan because she wanted the name for her future possible daughter. Her first child was a son. When pregnant with her second baby, she decided upon a different name in case she had a girl. It was another son, but even if it hadn't been she wasn't going to call a girl Megan. Stupid.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 30/06/2012 19:09

She's a scientist and she can't spell Isaac ??!

tiredteddy · 30/06/2012 19:09

If she was actually pregnant the it's fair enough to tell a sibling or close friend that there is a name you are intending to use. However as she is not SIBU to bags a particular name or in fact any name! Use the name you like she will have to get over it.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 30/06/2012 19:10
blackcats73 · 30/06/2012 19:10

The standard spelling is Isaac. Sorry just annoying as a mum of Isaac, everyone gets it wrong!! Though of course you can spell it how you wish, just Isaac is the standard spellingx