To think it's ok to be pissed off and uncomfortable in late pregnancy

[Snowboarder]

I am very pregnant. I won't go into it but my body is not coping very well with pregnancy at all, my downstairs area is all kinds of wrong and I have one fat leg. I also have a very active 15 mo old to run after and I am too warm.

My neighbour chastised me yesterday as I dared to say I'd had 'enough.' as my DS1 was born very prem I should apparently be grateful for every single day I'm carrying this baby. I have health problems which make carrying a pregnancy difficult.

My point is that you can be glad to be pregnant and still be pissed off with pregnancy. We don't all glow. Plus, I am at a stage where if the baby was born he would likely be completely 100% fine. My consultant even said I'd 'made it' when I saw her this week.

I am probably being a hormonal mad pregnant lady but AIBU to defend my right to be pissed off with pregnancy.

Be nice please.

By the way, just for info, my neighbour has 2 DC and has told me she had no problems getting pregnant and wants no more herself so I don't think there's anything underlying that prompted her comment.

Pps she did also ask me how I was, so not like I started moaning without cause. I was just being honest and said 'I've had enough.' I didn't go on and on.

I hated every minute of my pregnancy, never got that 'burst of energy' everyone promised me. And at the end, 3 years ago, it was one of the hottest Junes on record. And my son was much wanted and very hard to get. By the end I was so grumpy I refused to leave the house.

Be as hormonal and mad as you want.

YANBU

first pg was not too bad as i could just sleep a lot, but i was on my last legs some days with 2 year old DS1 to chase about!

YANBU and are quite entitled to a wee grumble.

you can be happy to be pregnant and excited and bloody tired and sore and fed up too.

congratulations too. :)

I think that's why I'm pissed off Tee, my DS1 was conceived via IVF after I'd had cancer and was very prem and this pregnancy is classed as 'very high risk' and I see a consultant weekly for monitoring - I know all too well that pregnancy isn't to be taken for granted. That said, I bloody hate being pregnant. I have expected my waters to break at any minute from about 20 weeks and I feel like my body is slowly turning itself inside out. I'm not being ungrateful but it's horrible.

YANBU. It was really hot when I was about to give birth to DS1, everything felt like it was about to fall out, and my thighs were so big I had to wear DH's pants because of chafing.

I spent the last week before lying on the sofa withe the fan on hoovering up biscuits.

Not long now though. Moan all you like.

YANBU at all, it took 4years and lots of fertility treatment for us to have DS and whilst I am hugely grateful and he was worth it, I had a horrible pregnancy and moaned alot! You can be grateful for the outcome, doesn't mean you have to enjoy the process!

YANBU!

I hated every minute of both my pregnancies - morning-noon-and-night sickness from conception to birth and SPD. DD1 was due the middle of August but didn't put in an appearance until the 1st September so I was huge, hot, uncomfortable and poor DH had his ears ripped off for most of the last few weeks - I once threw an entire chopped iceberg lettuce at him

I just saw it as a means to an end

Moan away!

Both my children were desperately longed for.

However, the pregnancies were hell on earth and I hated being pregnant. Some people are ignorant of the fact that pregnancy causes serious illness in some people - perhaps your neighbour is one of them.

YANBU. Or if you are, then I am too.
We've had 4 early miscarriages since having 5yr old DD, and am now 29 weeks pregnant.
I feel like crap. Knackered, anaemic, swollen ankles, heartburn, cramps in legs, achey bump.... Emotional roller coaster, unpleasant trips to toilet because of iron tablets. It's shit. I am soooo grateful that it seems to be working out this time, but am scared of labour and fed up of being pregnant. Feel guilty for whinging - if myself from a year ago could see me now, she would be astounded!

See, I was going to come on and tell you DD was born at 27 weeks and you should enjoy being pregnant. But I won't. I have been converted. Terribly sorry to have been about to grump - and thank you for showing me it's alright to be pleased you're pregnant while hating it at the same time!

Asyouwere.

damn right you're allowed to be, entitled to be and must feel very annoyed frustrated and uncomfortable.

if you can't do it now, very heavily pregnant, when can you do it?!

moan all you like!

I thought a heavily pregnant woman's default mode was angry!

YADNBU. I have fertility issues,and don't have any children yet,but when I am lucky enough to get pregnant then you can bet I'm going to have a moan if I'm feeling ill or uncomfortable.
No reason why you shouldn't complain. It doesn't mean that you aren't excited about the baby.

YANBU
My DF had much longed for IVF twins, didn't mean that she wasn't very fed up and uncomfortable by the end.

YANBU, nobody likes being uncomfortable and in pain! It will all be worth it in the end, but you are only human, and entitled to moan about it!

Did you tell her to piss off btw?

Ignore the insensitive bint
I feel hideous in late pregnancy and in early pregnancy.
I am also a total loon and there is nothing I can do about it.
You be as bloody grumpy as you like!

YANBU
I had a bad pregnancy. Painful uncomfortable. I love my dc but 9 months of someone living in your gut sucks. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

Wouldn't it be great if being pregnant was a job - that you 'did' 9-5pm weekdays, and got time off, from the backache, indigestion, undercarriage trubs etc?

Of course YANBU - I've never grasped this "enjoying being pregnant" idea, and I've had 3 dcs. You shouldn't ask someone how they are if you are only going to allow positive answers. All you needed was a bit of sympathy "Aw, I know. I remember how tiring it can be at the end" or something.
Can we give you some sympathy now, to make up ?

Have some

You lot are lovely - I went out for tea and was slightly dreading it in case I came back to a barrage of abuse. The thing is, I started wondering if I was just being ungrateful, but I know that the baby is the most important thing and I will cook him for as long as it takes (and as long as I can) it's just that I don't feel I need to pretend to be relentlessly cheerful about it when I feel physically exhausted and dropping to bits.

Galena - glad I was able to convert you , the thing is, last time I missed out on 12 whole weeks of pregnancy. I was at the hospital every day visiting DS in NICU and I couldn't bare to look at pregnant women as I felt so jealous and resentful. I really felt like I'd missed out on the experience of being 'properly' pregnant. Now of course I know that the reality is a lot different from the fantasy but it is, of course, just a means to an end - for me anyway.

Cherry - I didn't tell her to piss off, I did give her The Look though

Thanks for all the sympathy and best wishes. 4 weeks today at the VERY LATEST my little boy will be in my arms (ELCS booked for 30th July) so I can cope with anything as long as my undercarriage doesn't fall out completely until then.

Please come back when he arrives, and share the good news

Thanks BackforGood, I will!

I'm so excited at the thought of actually getting a baby passed to me that I can BF straight away and take home with me from the hospital. The whole idea seems alien to me as DS1 spent over 2 months in NICU and SCBU.

I can't wait to meet my boy ...all in good time though!