Another bloody in law thread

[shapoopio]

But really, they're driving me mad. I KNOW I'm not BU so I'm here to vent, really...but in the last three months since I had my DC, my BILs, SILs and PILs have:

-made FUN of me for exclusively BFing- I'm not joking, apparently I'm a martyr and the baby is 'too clingy' to me as a result. They all laughed at how often DC feeds...
(They all FF but I never said anything to them about that).
-every time they see me, comment on my weight- either 'how's it going with losing the baby weight shapoopio' or 'have you joined the gym yet?' (!)
-When my DC cries, tell me she is 'a terrible baby'.
-Tell me that my life has been ruined because of said terrible baby.
-PILs come twice a week for the whole day and expect entertaining. They expect me to bf in the bedroom as it's 'too much for granddad'. (cue more laughing).
-SIL looks me up and down and it makes me feel a bit unnerved..

I know this sounds like I've plucked it from every terrible in law thread on MN and mashed it together but this is all true. I've tried to be accommodating but I'm utterly fucked off by now. My DP doesn't see there's any problem as he is used to 'their ways'.

Sorry- needed a vent as yesterday I had yet another weight comment. (For what it's worth I've lost two stone since I had DC and have one more to go. Not exactly bad going).

When they says she is a terrible baby, I would say 'no she is not terrible, babies are not terrible and that is a really horrible thing to say'.

Agree re the "how much they're taking comment" my response was always "she's tracking her centile, she's fine. Just because you use a lot of a resource it doesn't mean it isn't wasted. Ff babies drink more because it's a less efficient product, hence the huge smelly poos".

I normally suggest caution and politely explaining however this is so beyond the pale I suggest

Tell them to fuck off to the far side of fuck and then fuck off some more and suggest to your dh unless he grows a backbone and some respect for you and your child he may join them.

They sound horrific.
Your DH needs to defend you more.
I personally would go in the bedroom to BF even in front of female relatives but that's my preference you shouldn't be made to.

YANBU

Feels the need to come round and form a protective ring of vipers mners to tell them to fuck off and die field horrible comments so you can bf in peace.

If you dont start making in roads with this sort of behaviour soon hun, then they will feel free to start on other things as time goes on, nip it in the bud now, otherwise your line in the sand will get walked all over.

congrats on your new bubs too x

Ds1 one was a "chattier" than average baby that liked to comfort feed. How I didn't lamp someone for "is he good", "naughty ds","how do you know how much he is having" comments I will never know.

Don't be sad take some comfort that your not alone

It's horrible for them to say things about your child I'm not good with witty comments etc but I'm sure someone else will think of one. When they do you shouldn't be afraid of using it either!

Your the most important thing right now in your babies life so I'd say your well within your rights to be as rude as you feel nessecary to get the comments to stop. You need to bring the message home loud and clear it is not ok and never will be to speak about you or your child in that way again or you will be dealing with this until she's 20 :L.

When they mention your weight get your poker face on and comment on something negative about them. Weight, bald patch, dress sense anything then when they have a face point out its not very nice with a long stare. They should hopefully see the error of their ways

Not unreasonable at all start taking the piss out of them see how they like it. Also tell you husband to grow some balls and stand up for you. If someone made me feel I comfy in my own home they would not be invited in again no matter who they were or who they were related to.