AIBU in thinking there is no point in being with my partner who plays ps3 everynight and no sexlife for over 8 months?

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I have been with my partner for 12 years . Every night I sit downstairs while he plays PS3 till the early hours . We dont have sex anymore and I dont want to . He comes in from work,sleeps for a couple of hours , has a bath, eats and then goes online for the remainder of time.I am so sick of it.

children? joint financial commitments? anyone else on the horizon, or closer?
you are essentially living alone, anyway. does he know how you feel? are you wary of mentioning it in case it marks the beginning of the end of your relationship, with all the disruption that entails?

It does sound a bit bleak.....

YANBU. What, as my friend would say, is he bringing to the party? If you're leading separate lives, he's not bothered about you and you don't really want to get any closer to him, then that's probably the end of the road. Does he know how you feel and would talking help, or are past the point of caring?

He sounds properly addicted

Could you chat to him?

Do you have children?

Talk to him. He might be as sick of things as you are and that's why he's pissing his life away on that toy.

You both deserve to be happy and if you're not, then there comes a time when you just have to cut your losses.

YADNBU. get a life away from him.

Just leave.

Sounds a miserable relationship. I presume you have kids otherwise this question wouldn't need to be asked and you'd have dumped him long ago.

PS3? How old is he? There comes a time for a boy to put away childish things and become a man.

I am busy weaning my 17 year old DC off his game playing and introducing responsiblity and ambition - as I did with my 24 year old DC who got the lesson and is successfully self employed now and spends hours on designs instead of wasting time of silly games.

Your DP needs to "man up" as they say.

It wouldnt bother me if he decided to use time im sleeping to play ps3. But what would bother me is the fact that there is not one jot of time together. Do yiu have a tv show you both enjoy and so watch together....ever sit and have a game of cards or go out to the pub together?

Have to say, I wouldnt be sat with him while playing. Ive got better things to do with my time than watch a man shoor fake zombies. However dh and I both lile to spend a little bit of time on our own.

I think your situation is a very extreme one. Is he open to changing how much he plays online so that you have a few non-ps3 nights?

I could have written your post a couple of years ago. 2 young kids,
I was knackered in the evenings and just wanted to chill in front of the tv. Dh is not a big tv watcher and preferred to play on his play station,
This meant we weren't in the same room, I didn't want to sleep with him as I didn't feel like we had a relationship any more. I eventually broke his favourite game disk, he responded by cutting the tv wire! A
Long heart to heart followed and we are now much happier.
With us it was a case of we were both annoyed by the others
Distance, causing us to withdraw further, vicious cycle Really.

yanbu