To go on a hen night......

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......when ds2 is only 4 months.

I have been invited to a hen night which will be one night away. Will be leaving 3 dc's with DH. I really want to go as I don't go out without the dc's very often. DH is fine with it but have had a few comments about leaving ds2 who will be nearly 4 months. It isn't the first time I have left him overnight as ds1 was in hospital overnight so he stayed with my mum. He is ff.

AIBU

YANBU...go and have a fab time!

Go, ds will be ok with dad. Have fun,

Yanbu, if he's happy and you're happy then screw what anyone else thinks. Have a great time - it'll be good for you.

Good lord, of COURSE go if you want to. I had had my first night out by then too.

What sort of things have people said? Imo its jealousy at the fact that you clearly have a very supportive and competent husband

Go. Have fun. Come back hungover refreshed and revitalised. DCs will be fine with their dad.

Go! Go! Go!

Fuck what anyone else says. Be prepared for underhanded insults along the lines of 'I don't understand how anyone could leave a baby so young but if you're happy to do it...'

Fact is baby is with dad and they will survive whilst you get to let your hair down, have a lie in and come back a new woman!

Go!

YANBU - Go and have fun!!

go - enjoy yourself, they with their dad not some stranger

YANBU go and have a fab time. Everyone needs to let their hair down now and then.

YANBU, go!

The only thing that stopped me from doing the same was that mine wouldn't take a bottle.

Go ahead and enjoy yourself.

God yes, go and enjoy yourself.

YANBU, I went on a hen do for 3 nights when DD was 12 weeks. She was fine, DP was fine, I was fine.

YANBU. I had a girlie night out when DD was the same age and I was bfing. We still managed to do it, I had a lovely time and started to feel glamorous again, DD had a lovely time with her dad.

I used to go 'out' three nights a week when my DD1 was that age, I worked nights.

Maybe they are jealous. Dh is great with the kids and never minds having them on his own or taking them all out somewhere while I do some jobs around the house. Most of my friends have husbands who moan when they are left to "babysit" and can't possibly manage to keep the children entertained and keep the house from looking like a bomb has hit too.

I just thought maybe I was bu because he is so young. Someone said that I shouldn't be going on a hen night at all as I have 3 dc's and are too old.

YANBU! I couldn't have done it when DS was 4 months because he was an incredibly stubborn bottle refuser, but would have gone out overnight like a shot if it wouldn't have meant leaving DH with a baby screaming non-stop.

And the person who said you shouldn't be going on a hen night at all is clearly bonkers. Does she also think you should be investing in beige slacks and sensible shoes?

Your children have two parents. Go. Wear some jewellery that you can't usually wear (dangly earrings etc).

They are jealous definitely. I went out overnight when they were that age as couldn't continue BF due to poor mily supply so it wasn't an issue.

Just seen the too old comment - unreal - I hope you told them to fuck off!!

I actually can't believe no one has said yet ' YANBU, if you want to go then you should, personally I could never have left my 4 month old overnight that early on'!

Come on MNetters - you're slacking!!!

down your situation is different of course as you would have gone if you could!!!!!

It really irks me when people say they are 'babysitting' their own children. No, that's called being a parent, you knob.

Go, have a lovely evening and don't worry.

Go! I don't understand why anyone would be disapproving of you going out for a night and enjoying yourself. It's not like you're fleeing the country for a drug binge is it?!! Some people are arses.