Am I BU to want to use my Jujitsu skills against a new friend?

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My 12 DS was badly bullied in primary school (I mean REALLY badly bullied...12 months of 6 kids punching and kicking him on a daily basis) ...it's on here somewhere. He has been doing Jujitsu for a few years as self defence and it has boosted his confidence. I also do jujitsu.
Recently one of the adult students (who I am very friendly with) brought a friend along and before long he had joined our happy band.
I get on great with him and have a good laugh with him.
Today I noticed he had changed his picture on FB. He is pictured with a young boy,the worst of the bullies - the one I could quite happily kick from here to the moon.
I should have noticed their surnames were the same but I didnt make the connection. Upon further looking it's his cousin.
I feel really angry towards him, although I know it wasn't him it's like he is guilty by association....HELP!

brilliant, what a great chance,

you can drop into conversation why you and ds are doing this, don't mention the name of the bully just talk about how it has effected DS and yourself,

It might be the chance to make sure the right people speak to the boy,

good luck.

you think? I feel ill at the thought of it as it affected us so badly and I am scared that I will have the good intention of talking nicely then just losing the plot and full shouldering him...

can you tell him honestly how you felt 'was really shocked and felt sick when you put up the photo of cousin as he bullied DS by doing xxx to him daily. It's really effected DS confidence and

then just losing the plot and full shouldering him...

why? it wasn't him that bullied your DS,

I would take the chance to talk to him about it, he might not even know about what happened.

I know it's hard but you have to try to communicate, at the moment he is unaware how you feel.

part of learning jujitsu, is learning control.

Some of my family are arseholes. Doesn't mean I am.