To have sex with pre teens in the house?!

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Parents of older kids -do you still manage to have sex at all?!!

Dd1 and Dd2's rooms are either side of mine but for the moment they are both usually sound asleep by 9pm. However, Ds, 12, has a loft room above ours and I often hear him up and faffing about up to midnight despite his "bedtime" being 9pm and him having no computer, tv, phone or ipod in his room!

Do I have to commit myself to having no sex until they all move out? AIBU to have quietish sex with the risk of DS hearing and being utterly revolted?

(My mum was a single parent so I never had to experience the horror of parental sex!)

FFS MaryZ you're bold!

in all seriousness i doubt he hears much from your room.

you'll hear more coming from his room because it's travelling through the floor. i think.
my mum used to yell at me to turn my music down because it sounded loud downstairs, but when she came up she'd quite often apologise as it really wasn't that loud at all.
i never heard anything from downstairs.

Oh OP, sex away it won't damage him forever I'm sure.

Put the telly on and keep the noise down.

My mum had v loud regular long sessions with my now step dad - it was gross and I hated it - they also did it when I had friends over - shudder at the memory of knocking on the door hoping they would shut up.

I went to sleep with music or tv on for years.

Makes me much more reserved than dh would like us to be now.

Gone all shuddering erggghhhh!!!!!

'to have sex with preteens in the house'.
someone has doubtless said this already, but do not have sex with preteens, in the house or the garden or even the park. they won't like it and you'll get into trouble.

I feel your pain op Ds1 who is almost 12 heard us a couple of weeks ago and I denied it and said we were just messing about but I'm not sure he believed me. I now put the tv on or wait until they are definitely asleep.

If you were asked if you were having sex would you admit it or lie??

We have six dc ranging from teenagers to babies, if we had to wait till the house was empty we'd never be able to do it

We have a lock on our door, and we turn on a fan or some music, sorted

We also make a point of locking the door when we're clearly not doing anything so that they don't always assume locked door=oh no mum and dad are at it again

A bit of an Eats Shoots and Leaves thread title

But totally feel your pain

We have 3 teens in the house plus a preteen and our ds sleeps in the room below us.

Virtually impossible to guarantee privacy so we have been known to set our alarm for the middle of the night

That way we both get a dam good shag AND a lie-in

I have the same problem, in fact my teenage dds told me last week that we are noisy and that it is "DISGUSTING and DISTURBING" especially given our very advanced ages (45 and 47....

Wait till they are in school, or Dh has the TV on in the bedroom and I go to put my jammies on (thats a quickie) Or be really quiet in the middle of the night.
We have a very small house, bungalow, so no privacy yet we have three kids, two are pretty much grown, and Dh still chases me round the kitchen and the teens thought it was funny.

Ludog, if your dds are able to raise the subject, I don't think it matters that they've heard you. You can just acarry on. It's when it's an unmentionable subject that it all gets very embarrassing for everyone. I once came into my dps bedroom when they were 'at it' and forever after I as very careful to knock and to ignore any sounds. up until that point I thought that as they had 4 children it meant that they only had sex four times.

My DC'S regually hear me us .

All 6 of them have at some point walked in on us AND we have a lock .

Just do it. They gotta learn sometime that adults have sex, nuffin wrong with it. Don't be making loud porn moans and banging the bed though that really is unnessecary.

My mum has a vibrator I accidentally discovered.

I'm not a 'pre teen' but I am 19. It's none of my business and I am happy she gets the sexual gratification she deserves.

Sound travells down more than up.

One day when all the kids are out (you may need to send them to the cinema or something) get DH to go into ds's room.

Make all your sex noises and see what he can hear - try with doors open and closed.

Sassh -excellent idea

More apologies for the disturbing title. My bad punctuation and your filthy minds

sensuallettuce - Thank God... I thought we were the only ones that had been caught on the job. DSS2, just closed the door and said "carry on". Couldn't (carry on). I feel for him but don't think he saw too much... poor kid, tried to talk to him but Gawd that was embarassing.

I did quiet sex the other night...or so I thought. 11 year old came and knocked on the door 2 minutes after we'd finished and said "could you keep the noise down please? I'm trying to sleep! It's 11 o'clock you know?". I was mortified. In fact, mortified doesn't even cover it.

I told DH that was it. No more sex for him whilst the child is at home. He'll have to wait til she goes to uni!

wow the title made me think

I would have thought but with such a recent experience burning shame into my brain, I instantly thought, ah...she's got a flappersex problem.

This thread has made me realise that the bedroom layout of our large flat is ideal! The only room adjoining ours is our study :)

Quiet sex is hot. But is there any way you could switch rooms around to get one that's less audible?

Old house thick walls, no great problem.

I used to hear my parents, Iliked it. Nice to know you could still have fun in your old age.