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to think that if a stranger gave you a car...

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Spuddybean · 27/06/2012 20:29

you might say thank you at least?

I had an old car - but in very good condition and low mileage (1 previous owner, brand new tyres, serviced every year, never broken down etc). But decided we didn't need 2 cars. So was going to sell it for a couple of hundred quid.

Driving instructor said he was teaching a 'young lad' who didn't have much, still at home etc who may be interested. So 'lad' comes round (when i'm out) with DI and looks at the car and DI calls and says he loves it, but can't give me anything for it.

I think to myself ah well he's a young lad and everyone needs a helping hand etc. So i say he can have it. Give all the paperwork and keys to DI and then next day the car is gone.

Anyway, a week later after hearing no thanks, i asked DI if the 'lad' had liked the car. 'oh yes' DI says "he has already put a top of the range stereo system in it'. Um okay, i think - doesn't sound that hard up but you know what these young folk ar like with their music. So the next time i see DI i ask again. 'Oh over he moon' he says.

So about 2 weeks later after still no thank you note put thru the door i say to DI that i would expect to be thanked. DI looks shocked and says 'well you know what young people are like' and i say 'yes but even at 17 i would have thanked someone for giving me a car' and DI laughs and says 'he's not 17 he's 29!'

It turns out he is only a few years younger than me, has a better job than me and lives at home. So i think he really should know better and have developed some manners by now.

DI agrees that yes it is a 'bit off' and he will have a word. That was a month ago. Still no thanks.

So AIBU to think if a stranger gives you a car, an actual working car, regardless of value, you would at least say thank you? Or am i just painfully old fashioned and an uptight moany bitch?

I am also 31 wks preggers so maybe i am oversensitive.

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Spuddybean · 27/07/2012 21:22

No minim i gave the car away because i didn't want it anymore and it wasn't worth much. I was probably going to end up scrapping it tbh . BUT if someone gave a car to me i would say thank you even if they didn't want it anymore.

DI has given up being a DI as it wasn't bringing in enough money. He came round earlier and i we chatted about the car. I don't think he got anything from it particularly. But he is the type of person to go to great lengths to do stuff for others it seems. He paid for and booked my driving test so i didn't have the hassle of using the website etc.

I don't think they are con men and in it together (it would be an odd and very un-lucrative profession if so!). I just think the 'lad' is still living at home and probably is a bit 'entitled', where he just thinks it's normal to be given a car and not necessary to be grateful. The DI seems to be a bit of a people pleaser tbh.

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Bingdweller · 27/07/2012 23:43

Hate bad manners like this - especially whe you have been so generous.

Same thing happened to me, my grabby, entitled SIL never even thanked me for he car (& 6 months worth) of road tax I gifted her. Didn't want cash but a bottle of wine or thank you card would have been appreciated.

I was especially pissed off when she scrapped the car a while later and pocketed £100 from the scrap merchant, then told me!!! No bloody sense or manners...

geegee888 · 28/07/2012 00:03

OMG thats rude! tbh, he should really have offered you a token sum for the car out of manners I think. Horrible lack of manners.

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