Aibu to not want to go and see my class

[Cathycomehome]

Because I haven't had chickenpox?

Just that really. I'm on maternity leave expecting baby in two weeks. A friend of mine has shingles, and told me that at her daughter's pre school some kids have been off with chickenpox; lots of kids at our school have siblings at this per school (not sure if the shingles can possibly be related? Coincidence I think?)

Anyway, I need to go into the school where I teach to pick up a memory stick I need, but I don't want to get any closer to potentially chickenpoxy kids than I can help. My friend, who is the secretary, pointed out that I could catch it from anyone anywhere, in a shop for example, and was a bit funny with me, which is true, but since I am hardly leaving the house at present ( started mat leave earlier than I was going to cos of health problems), that's not very likely.

So, would I bu to go in and get what I need and not go and see my class, or would that be mean as has been implied?

It actually makes me really cross that they are implying that you're being precious and making you doubt your own judgement. It's your BABY!! Reminds me of when I worked with a bunch of 50/60 year olds who constantly sniped at me for avoiding pate/caffeine in my pregnancy because they had this stupid 'well we all smoked 20 woodbines a day and drank gin and our children were fine, you youngsters of today, fuss, fuss, fuss' attitude that used to really fuck me off. Not least because it wasn't even true, they'd just forgotten how you have these protective instincts during pregnancy and and reinvented themselves as no fuss, no nonsense fucking she-warriors. Oooh it makes me angry (had you noticed?)

YANBU.

Bollocks to them, it's you who has to deal with the worry of your pregnancy not them so it's your say that goes.

It wouldn't matter whether you were being entirely unreasonable (which you're not) it's your body and your baby and they should respect that, in fact one of the buggers should be offering to drop the memory stick round or pop it through your letter box.

If your feeling a little guilty about the children get some cheapy cards or postcards and scribble some short messages thanking them for a nice school year and wishing them a nice summer. You might get a bit of writers cramp but it's better than chicken pox!

Don't just pop your head round the door! That would never work they'd all come running over to hug you spread poxy germs wouldn't they?

Get them to post it :)

If you have a webcam, you could arrange to Skype them? That way they get to see you/talk to you without you getting close to the germy little darlings. (Get the secretary to post the stick and use the time you save not having to trek to the school.)

Stay away,it is not worth the risk. Ask them to post it to you. Your health is more important than some possibly dissapointed children (who should not have been told to expect you anyway).

Don't go near. It's one thing to walk past someone on the street who may or may not be incubating chicken pox, quite another to knowingly expose yourself to a classroom of children who are highly likely to be incubating it. YANBU

(although as a primary teacher I would be very surprised if you weren't immune through years of exposure, but that's to put your mind at rest, not to suggest you go in.)

Don't go in.

Once you have had your baby, I would think about getting a chicken pox vaccine for yourself, not for your baby though. Think you would have to pay privately for yourself.

Thanks for advice, I think I will try and get a vaccine after baby is born; I have heard chicken pox is not so good as an adult even when not pregnant?

Saw shingles friend last week, so I really hope I haven't already got it

My friend caught chicken pox whilst pregnant her baby was fine, however a couple of years later her then toddler developed shingles which really wasn't nice for anyone.

YANBU!

Having had chickenpox at 36wks pregnant and then ten days later having a baby who arrived early at 37+ weeks, I'll never know if it was the chickenpox that triggered my labour. We were lucky in that neither I nor my baby were ill, but I would say under no circumstances should you go into the school, it's just not worth it.

YADNBU do not go!

All the best :)

Don't do it. You don't want to catch CP now, the baby could be born with it and they can be really ill. My Mom had it when she was having me, but luckily she and I were both over it before delivery.