to be more than pissed off with my neighbours?

[Tangointhenight]

I am coming towards the end of my tether with ny neighbours and I would appreciate some advice or perspective perhaps.

We live in an end terrace so are only joined to one set of neighbours. They are nice people in general, with two children in their 20's who still live with them.

We have lived in our house for about 4.5 years and have had to get used to quite a lot of noise in their part, in the dead of night. The father has MH issues and so is an insomniac, this means he is outside hammering in his he'd at 3am quite often, running up and down the wooden staircase that is directly behind our bedroom wall, slamming doors etc. It's very irritating but we have learned to live with it.

Just before we had DD they decided to get a puppy, a big dog, which barked non stop because it was stuck dart in day out in their tiny yard. With a newborn and lack of sleep this drove ne demented, but I accepted it afterall its their right. They got rod if that dog and about 4 months later got another one, the exact same size and breed, who is now outgrowing the yard too and barks from morning til night.

The dog thing I could just about deal with, often I would get DD to sleep and the effing dog would wake her

We deal with them drilling a wall at

Awh crap posted too soon, anyway they drill walls, hammer outside pretty much all the time, have full scale rows out the back at 6am but this is the straw that broke the camels back...the dad decided to.play bass guitar up full blast last night at 11pm, woke DD up :(

So should I say something to them, I can't stand it all anymore, we are considerate neighbours but this is driving me round the bend.

Sorry for the essay but didn't want to drip feed.

*sorry for the spelling I'm using my phone.

Come one, you know yanbu. Deal with it.

I would talk to them, you say they already have children so appeal to them, remind them what it was like keep it light hearted but ask if they could keep diy to certain agreed times

talk its the only way it can be resolved

Eastendy what so you mean by deal with it?

dubada I don't even know how to broach it without offending them, I would say the dad is very easily offended and we hardly see his wife as she works a lot.

Omg, sorry I don't mean to be rude but you are acting like a doormat. MH issues or not, that type of behaviour is not on & I would have been down on them like a tonne of bricks at the first sign of noise four and a half years ago. Unfortunately it sounds like you have put up with their behaviour which could be interpreted by them as condoning it.

I'd be straight in touch with the council. DO NOT put up with it any longer.

YANBU - you've got to risk upsetting them by saying something - just say their noise is waking your DD and causing you lots of stress, and please could they keep it quiet between 10pm and 7am.... or similar - that would be a reasonable request.

I feel for you - we have noisy neighbours too :(

seriously Wendy???!!!!!

OP, YANBU. In fact you've been hugely accommodating.

Talk to your neighbour. Playing bass guitar, presumably with the amp turned up loud, after 11pm isn't fair to you, and it isn't unreasonable to ask them not to. You could explain that bass sounds travel a lot further than other pitches of noise, and while it probably doesn't sound that loud to them, it is in fact just as loud in your place. You could ask that there's simply a limit on say weeknights with regard to noise.

My other half plays the drums, but he never practises after 6pm, it isn't fair on neighbours.

We had problems with our nieghbours playing loud music REALLY LOUD from 6pm non stop all through the night. We talked to them, lots of times, over the course of two years and finally had to get in the noise people from the council. But overall they're mostly OK if we talk to them. They got a dog - and left it outside to bark all night. After three nights of this we talked to them and they kept the dog inside (and not barking) at night after that.

Thanks everyone, I'm glad to hear that most of you don't feel I should just accept or 'deal with it'.

My parents brought us up in a semi and I remember my mum telling me to warn our neighbours if we were going to have a party or loud music, we were very considerate of them and vice versa so I've never had to deal with this before I moved here. I know they're not the worst in the world and I completely understand that the dad has health issues but I honestly felt like throwing something very heavy at my bedroom wall last night and screaming for him to STFU!

Ask him to use the headphone jack on his amp am assuming all amps have one as DH's does and like someone else says, to generally keep it down at night.

Go over when you're in a good mood, he's more likely to respond positively if you stay calm and don't get angry.

The dog would have been enough of a nuisance for me. Your life is being ruined.
Can you move out?

Get the environmental health out pronto. They'll place recording equipment in your home. Do not tell any neighbours what you have done regarding this.

Can you ask other neighbours if they regard the neighbours tobe quiet or not? I very much dubt they#ll say yes unless they are hardly ever home.

Shyte neighbours are the pits and after one set one is rarely able to trust that other neighbours will not do the sameas the bad ones.

Do something about it, you deserve peace.

Good luck, feeling your pain as I have had shyte neighbours too.

Please call the Environmental Health. You need evidence.

"Deal with it" means do something about it. Deal with the problem instead of ignoring it.
"I'm glad to hear that most of you don't feel I should just accept or 'deal with it'"....doesn't leave any other option does it? Accept it, or deal with it. Up to you.

Tangointhenight - "I don't even know how to broach it without offending them, I would say the dad is very easily offended and we hardly see his wife as she works a lot."

What about him offending you! You do have the right to quite enjoyment in your own house you know. Don't be treated like a doormat!

Sorry miss when people say deal with it where I'm from it basically means just get on with life and forget about it etc :o

I'm going to say something today, I have to, he's subjecting my poor DD to country and western music late at night too, she will be scarred for life ;)

Music and guitar - he can use headphones anytime after 8pm and keep it down before then. Dog - unacceptable.

There should be someone that deals with noise nuisance at your Local Council if they become unreasonable.

It's possible that they don't realise they are disturbing you, stupid as that sounds. You are considerate neighbours and if the people the other side are too, they may not hear much noise, but presume you are as noisy as them and the sound just doesn't travel IYSWIM.

I would say something first- if you get environmental health involved they will ask if you've spoken to the people before they get involved. EH will send them a letter first saying that a complaint has been made, then if the noise continues they will ask you to keep 'noise diaries' for a few weeks and based on that will offer you the monitoring equiptment. The neighbours will get a letter telling them that the complaint is being investigated and that they may use the recording equiptment. They have to tell them due to privacy laws.