to expect my dinner made for me if H was going out and I wasnt?

[bogeyface]

Because apparantly it isnt U for him to expect that.

On a related note, AIBU to answer "no idea, there is the usual in the freezer"? cos it appeared from his face and slightly snotty attitude that I am.

On a further related note AIBU to wonder why it is assumed that I will make sure that the kids are fed and everything is sorted for bed, even if they arent actually in bed, when he just goes out?

Another related note, AIBU to not expect a slightly sniffy "oh, ok then" when i announce I have a meeting that will be over school run time on his day off (the day we agreed he does childcare so I can work a full day)? Presumably this is because I have been back in time to pick them up for the last 2 weeks.

Your OP is perfectly easy to understand.

YANBU on any count.

This guys really sounds like a dick. I hope whatever it is that is keeping you there is worth it.

Oh sorry Bogey I didn't realise there was a history when I was taking the pee

Did i write this thread in my sleep or are we married to the same man.
YABU on all counts.
If you want the luxury of a night out you must first dust and clean, feed the dcs and dh whils applying mascara and sweeping the floor. If you want to work then this must not interfere with the football/xbox housework. When dh is not working he needs time too relax you do that during the day

one last thing be back before midnight or you'll turn into a pumpkin :)

Well there is history Worra, which is why you post made me laugh so much. joke away!

athing it is, it really is :)

mumnos you forgot that you must put up with him monopolisng the bathroom for an hour, while you get 15 minutes tops, 5 of which are while the taxi is beeping outside

For those wondering, he had a sexting affair from when I got pg until I found out when dd was 5 weeks old.

Nothing has changed in the year since I found out, despite promises on his part as he is apparantly desperate to make it work

But I no longer care, and am happy to live in the same house in a non abusive relationship in order to build something that will make a good life for me and kids in the future. I have not lost my self esteem, infact I have gained quite alot.

Its the piss taking I cant stand and then the looks or comments when I make it clear I wont take it.

worra that cracked me up in a good way

op if what your saying is what i think your saying yanbu,
i think its he goes out and expects you to do everything because hes going out but if you go out you still have to do everything because your going out.and that you both agreed he would collect the kids one day a week but is now refusing to do it.

leave the twat but befor you do that send him round mine to get my twat and they can both house share

He doesnt refuse sock but does seem somewhat surprise and pissed off when asked to do what he agreed to do. And he doesnt kick off if his dinner isnt made or the kids arent fed and ready to go, but his whole demeanor indicates that he thinks it aint right!

mumknowsbest op and me hummmmmm im senseing a trend here and i think we ought to call the police well if both of you are married we do im not married but im thinking bigamy going on here as well as just genral twattyness. if your dh's manicly grope you whilst your trying to do the dishes or slaps you hard on the arse when ever you bend down for any reason then i will meet you at the station and give you a statement.because we are all seeing the same bloke

Actually OhDearNigel it's not male logic at all, would be much easier for us (men) to belittle women's logic as under most circumstances you don't appear to have any! The AIBU forum actually supports this ;)

Wife worked late tonight I was at home, she came home to baby bathed, in bed asleep, house clean and dinner on table and, no I don't think I'm unique either, not even close!

Reminds me of my ex. I had to pay all the Childcare do that I could work. Not do that we could both work. So that I could work. Like I was paying for the privilege and his work was so much more important than mine which was ironic as I earned more than him

And. Breathe.

Op, yanbu!
Dh tried a few times and was met with "you want me to do what?" and occasionally ruder stuff so he stopped. But then again I have a very bitchy temperament if common sense is breached..

Ooh sorry sock, if mine tried that then he knows he would be looking for his bollocks in his shoes! To paraphrase Victoria Wood "have you always been a wanker, or did you do an evening class?" Perhaps they all went to the same one?

mutantpumpkin you might not be unique but certainly not the norm, definately a mutant man.
socknicking mine has no interest in arse smacking. Maybe he gets enough of that when hes round at yours :)

Yanbu! Did you accidentally marry someone who thinks it's 1954 like I did?

Worra. Bogey, every time he pisses you off, think of Worra's post. The minute you think of him being coated in crispy fried bastard, you'll snort and be laughing so much you will forget to be pissed off at him!

Worra can I apologise?

I rather suspect you have been saving that one up and I feel bad that you wasted it on this thread! I declare that you didnt actually post it, and are now at liberty to use it again on a more deserving thread!

Oh god no Lol!

Tis me who needs to apologise for making such a flippant comment and not realising there was history.

It was just something my idle fingers typed while my mind was distracted by something shiny

You should never apologise for making someone laugh! It was bloody marvellous and you should be very proud :)

THis makes "fuck the fuck off....etc" look like "have a nice day" :o

It's all about how it makes you feel. If I go out in the evening, leaving a meal ready for whoever is at home or coming home, if I come home and all the remains are still there, dirty plates etc, I feel angry and sad. I'm not en employee of the house, and I don't like being taken for granted.

It's clear that your DP finds the 'work' an imposition, which is an insult to you and the family. YA def NBU.