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To think DP should be getting the flat ready for HIS parents?

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vodkaandcaviar · 26/06/2012 16:30

They're coming today (short notice!) and have asked DP to make dinner - they even took him to buy the ingredients. I've set up the tabl, tidied up the kitchen and cleaned the bathroom but I asked DP to hoover the flat yesterday and he didn't - it needed doing anyway. He says 'it doesn't need doing' but it clearly does. He also says he's 'too busy cooking' because he's spent the last hour chopping veg for a chilli. Surely he can do it once the chilli is cooking? He's so lazy about making the flat look nice when people are coming round and when it's my family the onus is on me to make the place presentable but I'm sick of having to do it for his, especially since I'd already asked him to do the bloody hoovering. It's not a fancy dinner or anything, I just don't like people coming over when the flat's messy.

AIBU to think he should do it or should I go do it myself now? I know it'll only take 10-15 minutes but I'm sulking. Someone give me a kick up the arse?

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EchoBitch · 27/06/2012 01:47

And i might just add...

I live in a flat too.

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/06/2012 02:39

If it is no problem to 'throw the Hoover around" let him do it.

vodkaandcaviar · 28/06/2012 00:28

So I don't love my DP because I'm not willing to do all the household chores?! Haha!! I did end up doing it today, actually. And all of the tidying up/dish washing after his parents and sister. I didn't mind - I just get a bit pissed when I ask him to do something (nicely!) and he doesn't do it.

And regarding why I'd feel the need to have the flat clean for his parents if he doesn't care...well, I just want my flat to be clean anyway and I think it reflects badly on both of us if it isn't. Plus, I just generally feel happier in a clean flat and if we have the time to keep it clean, I think we should. His mum hasn't worked since he was born and spends a lot of her time cleaning their house so I guess I kind of feel more pressure to have ours clean too because I know she has high standards - I know she probably doesn't apply them to me but I hate feeling like she thinks I'm a slob when really I was just trying to get DP to help me with the chores.

It's no big deal anyway...until the next time they visit...which is Friday ;)

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