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AIBU?

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Sex sex and sex

35 replies

Socknickingpixie · 26/06/2012 11:47

I like sex lots I'm not a anti sex type or anything like that but I choose not to have sex during the day whilst children are alert and around.I don't think oh babies gone to sleep let's have sex because I have older children that arnt sleeping, other things to do and baby may only be asleep for a few mins

Bf winging because I won't drop everything to go and bounce up and down on his cock.

We have sex about 3 times a week so he's not deprived.

So am I being unreasonable

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AnyoneForTennis · 26/06/2012 11:52

Yanu for calling him a 'bf' when he sounds like he needs to be an 'ex'bf!

AnyoneForTennis · 26/06/2012 11:52

*yabu

ToryLovell · 26/06/2012 11:56

What anyonefortennis said.

manicbmc · 26/06/2012 11:58

He sounds like a knobend and not one I'd be wanting to bounce about on either. Confused

ohchristFENTON · 26/06/2012 11:59

He sounds very annoying, tell him to go out and do something useful. When baby is asleep it's time for him to make you a lovely cup of tea, not demand sex.

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Socknickingpixie · 26/06/2012 12:44

thank god for that, was srarting to wonder if i was being weird. incidently he started winging about lack of sex when baby was 4 days old we had had sex the day befor baby was born.and has been stuck on the same record ever since.
it disinclines me tbh

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TheOneWithTheHair · 26/06/2012 12:47

I'm not surprised it disinclines you. 4 days Shock. He needs telling!!

susiedaisy · 26/06/2012 12:48

YANBU he sounds immature, nothing more off putting than a sex pest keeping on all the time yuk!!

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 26/06/2012 12:48

He sounds like a selfish sod...and that's praising him!

Lack of sex when your baby is 4 days old??? Tell him to use his right hand!

ageappropriate · 26/06/2012 12:51

Leave the bastard :D

No seriously too much pressure is seriously off-putting and you need to tell him that if you haven't already. What would he think the other dc who are awake would be doing/thinking if you head off the bedroom??

girlywhirly · 26/06/2012 12:58

It is attention seeking on his behalf, and guaranteed to make you want to oblige even less! A lot of men equate sex with attention. A cuddle would do. He isn't deprived, he should be grateful for what he gets already!

However, if he were to do some chores and look after the kids while you have a rest, you would be more enthusiastic later when they are in bed.

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Socknickingpixie · 26/06/2012 13:00

thats exactly what i think. and good god dont get me started on the groping if i put something in the washer or pick something up of the floor or just happen to walk past him

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Dropdeadfred · 26/06/2012 13:01

Did he genuinely understand that you would still be bleeding 4 days after giving birth (never mind sore etc) and that is not taking into account you may just have been too tired or not ready?

CanIhavesomeginnowplease · 26/06/2012 13:07

Get him one of these and sticky tape a picture of your face to it. Grin

Oh and YANBU, he is.

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Socknickingpixie · 26/06/2012 13:41

dropdeadfred he genuinely didnt get that it may have been an issue apparently people give birth in hedges or something and should be able to have sex with in 15 minutes.

aparently there is apsolutly no excuse for not having sex everyday. the night befor last i didnt even get into bed as one of the kids were poorley so not even so much as ten mins dosing he slept compleatly through the night.and im a cow because i didnt want to drop my knickers at the first availible opertunity during the day yesterday

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Dropdeadfred · 26/06/2012 13:43

Sorry but if that really is how he sees you then I don't know how you can beat to be in a relationship with him!!!

Hullygully · 26/06/2012 13:46

tell him to fuck off ffs

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 26/06/2012 13:53

You don't need an excuse! If you don't want sex that should be the end of it.

What there is absolutely no excuse for is him whinging and pressurising you into having sex you don't want, or for groping you when you're just going about your business, or for not pulling his weight with the DC ...

SoleSource · 26/06/2012 13:56

YADNBU :)
He has issues.

HildaOgden · 26/06/2012 13:56

Seriously,tell him to either A)See someone about his sex addiction or B)Get better at wanking.

Hownoobrooncoo · 26/06/2012 13:56

How old is he and is this his first baby? He sounds yummy.

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Socknickingpixie · 26/06/2012 19:53

hes 27 his second child give him his dues hes extrodanary attractive but your very welcome to have him hownoo i will even throw in a panni maker for free

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rogersmellyonthetelly · 26/06/2012 20:15

Tell him to fuck right off and then fuck off some more. You are not his sex toy. If you say no, it should mean no. How old is he fgs groping you? Bloody hell!
As for whining about not getting any, tell him tostop being so childish and have a bloody wank.

AnyFucker · 26/06/2012 20:15

your boyfriend sounds like a twat

AdoraBell · 26/06/2012 20:16

Extraordinarily attractive means Jack Shit, tell him to fuck off