A friend split up with her boyfriend last week and when she told me I said something along the lines of 'oh no, I hope you're okay, if you need anything at all please give me a call'. Today I gave her a text to see how she's doing and I'm not sure what to say to her now.
She met the guy in November, they moved in together in January and now she tells me that she had a miscarriage at nine weeks in February. I've known for a few weeks that things weren't great - their lease was up at the end of this month and they'd been talking about not living together after that as they thought they'd 'rushed things'. I didn't know about the pregnancy at that point but thought it would possibly explain why they'd moved in together so quickly.
She hasn't said specifically why they split up last week but she did say that a few days before her miscarriage she found some messages (not sure if they were on phone/email/FB) from his ex which she thought were a bit flirtatious. Then after the mc he told her he still had feelings for his ex - that was just over four months ago. However, she's saying that she'd take him back if they wanted to live separately. I asked if they were on speaking terms, she says 'not really'.
I told her that I was so sorry about what she'd been through and that if she needs anything to let us know. I feel like what I said wasn't enough and I sort of want to tell her that if he has been yearning after his ex for the past four months it's probably best for them to stay apart. She said they were both pleased about the pregnancy (which makes his reaction even weirder?!) She's a bit older than me (she's 30) and has always wanted to be married/have kids, that sort of thing so every break up is very difficult for her. Anything else I should say or have I said enough?