To think you lose credibility when

[newport67]

you shout at your children because they are shouting.
Dh does this alot. Doesn't seem to get how ridiculous he sounds.
Even worse he even moans when they are talking loudly and replies "you must get it from your mum". Ok maybe i do on occassions speak in a louder voice than than necessary. However, i don't even realise I do it. Think hearing i s not 100% probably.
Sorry venting.

So you shout, but you only think its wrong for your dh to shout?

Think you should both try and stop shouting

No I don't shout. I just talkbut in a louder voice than dh believes I should. Don't even know i do it. What dh does is more like screaming!

So your dh shouts and but you talk loudly?
Maybe he gets annoyed at everyone talking so loud. Sometimes raising your voice is the only way to make yourself heard. My mum and her sisters all talk loud, really loudly. When they argue its easier to shout 'stop shouting and calm down.' saying it or reasoning with them doesn't work.
You do know you talk loud as you admit you do. If you didn't know you wouldn't say you know, iyswim. So that bit confuses me.

I only admit it as dh says I do. No one else has ever said it. It is only occassionally yet i am forever hearing dh shouting at children. Even when i am upstairs and they are down etc.
Sorry probably not being too logical at moment. Tired and hormonal.
I would say the real difference is the anger I feel when he screams/shouts.

I think you do lose your credibility a bit, if you shout then you can expect your children to think it's acceptable, and do it too. Around my DS I try to act the way I want him to act, although this is a problem for me as I'm generally quite a loud person anyway. Like you newport I don't actually shout, more like talk louder than I should. :o

My NDN shrieks at her children to make them stop shouting . I think she's a bit dim not realising that it's "monkey see, monkey do".

My brother talks loudly but he is practicly compleatly deaf and connot hear himself- this is acceptable

yanbu if shouting is done because your a bit crap and can't figure out better ways of getting what you want done or because your constantly angery and IMO nit a nice enviroment to have kids in parents constantly yelling acheives nothing but high stress

I agree. Screaming at your children to STOP SHOUTING makes you look like a fool.

As does yelling STOP FUCKING SWEARING

And don't hit your brother.

My NDN is constantly yelling "BE QUIET X!! FOR GOODNESS SAAAAKE!" (whiny voice)

Yet strangely enough I never hear the child being noisy or shouting.

But if the children are shouting, how would they hear your DH talking in a lower voice?

I find that works really well kids yelling at each other and you sit there, talking quietly, mentioning their names and saying things like 'sweets' 'money' 'holiday', barely above a whisper.

9 times out of 10 they hear you and give you their full attention

Sometimes when the kids are shouting you do have to shout one word to surprise them into shutting up. THEN speak to them reasonably and low to them i,e
"QUIET!" then "Thank you. Please can we all use indoor voices".

If I didn't shout my extra loud volume kids simply wouldn't hear me.