SISTERS!!!!!!! GRRRRR

[MyLittleMiracles]

Okay probably just a rant BUT
My sister seems to think i am being unreasonable for celebrating my bestie's daughters birthday on saturday, as she wants to celebrate hers, i have three issues with this, 1. my sisters birthday is on friday and there is no reason not to celebrate, 2. she knows its my besties daughters 18th and that they were like family to me and still are 3. She made me alter my plans for my sons birthday (original was for me and a couple of friends to take my son and their sons to a kiddy play area for the day, til threeish cos they have older kids at school, after which i was going home so mum and sister could come over for birthday tea) so my sister went off on one i am cutting out the family and insisted that they come over in the morning and i do the kiddy play the following day, okay, BUT come my sons birthday (this is two weeks ago tomorrow so not that long) i get a message saying mum is ill, when i speak to mum, mum is fine and had no idea that she and my sister were supposed to be coming to mine for little man's birthday. I had gone to considerable effort too, bought a cake, balloons, the works for it and ended up eating the cake between me and little man.

So now she wants me to drop for her birthday after spoiling my sons, and not even bothering to send him a text>?

AIBU to think no celebrate on the actual birthday or dont expect me to be there and stop making my PLANS FOR ME!

I think you should tell your sister to Do One and then do what you want.

Very complicated, had to read it 3 times. No, unless your sister had already told you that she planned in celebrating her birthday on the Saturday rather than the Friday, YANBU to make other plans. Although even if she had, it is still your choice who you want to spend the day with.

Re your DS's birthday party, why didn't you invite your mother yourself? Why would you leave it to your sister?

Finally, YABU to call your best friend your "bestie", and your son your "little man".

You are definitely nbu. But don't expect your sister to accept your decision gracefully; ime, this sort of sister will never admit she's in the weong, and will quite possibly cut you off for a Very Long Time like mine has.

Why is that unreasonable, my best friend and me always refer to each other as my bestie, thats how we are, and he is my little man, There are worse things to be called.

My sister phoned me to phone me to say that they were planning a surprise party for him and were coming over on his birthday morning, but not to tell mum i knew, cos mum wanted it to be a surprise, i thought fair enough, my sister wouldnt ruin little man's birthday, WRONG.

Bestie, unless your 9 UABVVU

i wouldnt change my plans esp after what she did!

Aww i like her being my bestie, closest friend? Almost sister? Cos we are closer than me and my sister are.
I will rename her, my most trusted and closest friend? Is that okay? No one to argue? LOL.

Sounds like my sister!! in my experience you'll never win.
Firstly-Go to your best friends daughter 18th as its sounds like it was planned first.
Secondly-Tell your brat of a sister that she sound have told you earlier that she was celebrating on the sat as you've already accepted the other invite
Finally- Communicate with your mum first hand, chinese whisper's that she said he said only upset people as noone will ever admit what was really said!

Good luck but its sounds like your sister is the baby of the family hence everything is about her (believe me i know!!)

YABU for using the term 'bestie'. Didn't read the rest, sorry.

Nah, I'll let you call her whatever you like. And I'm sure you're very grateful for that permission .

bestie ???
Can you repost, putting in paragraphs or bullet points or something - it's not at all clear what you are asking.

Is it unreasonable for my sister to expect me to change my plans after ruining my sons birthday two weeks ago, to celebrate her birthday when she is celebrating it the day after and it is my closest friend daughters which i was invited to almost a year ago and said yes.

Should add my sister knows its a special birthday on that day and i was planning on celebrating it then. She has no reason not to celebrate on her birthday either.

Sorry i was wound up when i first posted, a little calmer now.

Don't worry about it - it was obvious you were ranting posting in a hurry. Some of us managed to read it and get enough meaning to answer your question. No need for the snide comments.
Hope you manage to sort things out.

Thank you. No, YANBU IMO (or I suppose I should put is is unreasonable of your sister to expect you to fit in with her plans when you've already got something arranged).
Just say, 'Sorry, I can't make that night, I've already got something in my diary' end of. I'd be doing that regardless of whatever she did to upset things on your ds's birthday.

YANUB, your sister is tho and she sounds a tad percious. Stick to yours plans, your sister sounds very immature but she will get over it..............maybe

What a manipulative little madam!!

Go to your friends daughters 18th and have a great time!!