about this man's behaviour at BBQ?

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Long story short: Was at a BBQ last night where a drunk (male) member of the party disappeared for a short while. When he came back he told us he had peed in the garden. AIBU to find this strange?

YANBU - it is not just strange it is DISGUSTING and if a guest did this in my garden he would never be invited round again.

What is it with men that makes (some of) them think it's OK to behave like dogs, pissing in gardens/parks/doorways/corners of pavements or whatever other spot takes their fancy, when they're within a few metres of a loo? Completely unacceptable. I can't believe so few people are bothered by it!

I tell you what is fucking hysterical, watching a man in socks walk into the garden to have a pee, only to walk through the pee of the previous al fresco pisseer.

Happened to my dad at a family party, and the rest of us, ironically, pissed ourselves when we saw him in his soggy socks :o

I had to reread this about 4 times. I thought you said b and q.

Good point Wellwisher. There is a reason why the police have a go at people doing it.

I personally find it disgusting, as does my dad now

Not odd to do it, odd to announce it.

Nitrogen is a good compost starter.

as long as he went down the garden away from people i wouldnt be bothered tbh, he announced it because he was drunk no doubt and found it humorous. maybe there was a queue for the toilet?

i remember being about 17? and having been to a party and then having a lift home, it was a long drive back and by the time they dropped me off on the RAF housing estate i lived on i was BUSTING and so cut across the park and found a bush to wee behind, it was about 3am so i figured no one would see me, only i forgot about the RAF police patrols, who walk about, who did see me, they laughed and said 'good night then?' and indeed it had been a good night.

as a general rule no i dont pee in the garden but on a country walk if caught short then yes i would and have done when pregnant.

pissing in the street is not the same and yes gross, but in a garden, in a bush etc out the way i dont see it as a big deal if you ahve to go you have to go.

oh and yes wee is meant to be good for compost etc, i remember emptying the potty into our compost heap when we had one, wees only! but it was meant to be good for it and my grandad encourages my boys to wee on his compost heap etc.

Meh. Could you see it? No. Could you smell it? No. Did it damage anything? No.

What's the big deal?

When they're drunk I'd rather they peed outside instead of all around my toilet.

I wouldn't be bother by it at all (so long as my garden wasn't 6ft x 6ft).

It is odd he felt the need to tell you about it though!

harmless drunken behaviour, IMO

not great, not a hanging offence

Pissing in the garden - not a big deal

Wiping his nob cheese in your burger - cause for concern

So is it just men who do this then? (anyone dare 'fess up?)

I pissed in my own back garden once

When I used to smoke, I went outside for a ciggy...lit it up and then realised I was desperate for a wee. I didn't want to out the fag and have to go inside so I squatted down between 2 garden chairs and did the deed

My dad pees in my garden when sober. He pees outside. Tis a Tweedy Pipe Smoking Man Thing.
Yes, is revolting but so long as he doesn't do it in flower beds (hand weeding) and its a wet day and he can't be seen by neighbours/passers by then so be it. He does plenty worse things, sadly.

Yabu to find it strange

Yanbu to find it rude

I do this all the time.

In fact, only this evening I've been incinerating hedge clippings, drinking wine from the bottle, & wee-ing in the garden.

It's a big garden, & reasonably sheltered, so no-one's going to be traumatised by a glimpse of my bum...

"What is it with men that makes (some of) them think it's OK to behave like dogs, pissing in gardens/parks/doorways/corners of pavements or whatever other spot takes their fancy, when they're within a few metres of a loo? Completely unacceptable."

Agreed.

It's vile.

I don't want the stench of your urine in my garden tomorrow.

Use the toilet you filthy animal.

No not strange at all! Made me laugh a little that he told you though! Should've just kept it to himself!

Gardener's Question Time advocate weeing on your compost to speed up the decomposition.
So if Radio 4 OK it, surely it must not only be accceptable but naice?

I can quite see it's totally inappropriate at a social function like a barbecue, if you don't know the hosts well enough to be sure they'd not mind.

If it's at my house, fill yer boots. (Well, ideally, don't...)

But I don't think there's anything intrinsically revolting about having a wee in the garden - obviously dependent on size/style of garden, time of day, other garden users etc. There'll be cats tiddling all over it, & we live in a country with regular rainfall.

Must have really pissed you off?

Sole

I don't want the stench of your urine in my garden tomorrow

With the ""Summer"" we've had so far?

Not a fucking chance lol....

rather pee on my weeds than having to smell gone off wee in the morning when i needed to use it

wee is good for the garden, better if it was done in the compost as it helps with the decomposition. I used to ask people to pee in the compost if they didn't mind, back in the days when I had people over

Not strange if he was drunk. And not even that much of a big deal, unless the garden was only a 4m square patio with a BBQ and two tubs.