to let the guest choose?

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When my kids have a friend over for dinner, I allow their friend (guest) to choose what we have for dinner (as it's easier to ask what they do want, rather than go through a list of "I don't like that"). They (guest) also gets first choice of pudding.

When we have no guests over, I choose and cook dinner, and have the type of household with my kids, 'if you don't like tonight's dinner choice, I'm not doing anything else, it's this or go and have a bowl of cereal.' 99.99% they eat their dinner with no fuss.

When my kids go to others for dinner, the friend who's house it is gets to choose dinner as a treat, by their parents.

My kids have started commenting on this, that they never get the option, if a friend is over the guest gets to choose, if they are a guest in someone else's house, their friend gets to choose, and the rest of the time I decide meal.

AIBU to let the guest choose? Or should I allow my kids to decide on dinner time when guest is over? What do you do?

I always choose the meal actually but I will run it past the friends mother sometimes if i have time. Then I have a like it or lump it attitude whilst serving the food and we chat about more interesting things.

We tend to do guests first in our house - in relation to taking turns on the computer or using toys

I'd always ask the guests and let them choose, but I usually give my children a choice in their meals anyway - maybe a choice between two things, i.e. pasta or noodles. I don't run a cafe, but neither do I expect people to eat something they don't like.

i don't think yabu to let the guest choose at all.

if the kids are feeling a little hard done by then why don't you start asking them once or twice a week what they'd like to choose?

Why don't you let your kids have one night a week were they chose what's for tea? Then as they get older, they could get more involved with shopping for this meal, and then later this can evolve to be their night to cook.

i let my kids choose with in reason they get 2 options and who ever got choice the day befor gets the choice between the 2 that day this is mostly done in advance if a guest is invited they get this "would you like to come to tea we are having xyz"

In our house, the person cooking usually me gets to choose what we're eating. I think that's fair.

For guests, I usually check what kind of thing they like beforehand, as I don't like to send people home hungry. For family, I generally know what they all like (and what they can at least tolerate) and I prepare the meals accordingly. If dd wants to choose what we're eating, then she can help me cook it. If DH has any special menu requirements, he knows where the kitchen is.

I'd give them a choice sometimes. I find it odd that you do not.

I'll often give my kids a choice. They have done it often enough that they now don't want to choose and usually just say "whatever" usually phrased more politely butI don't blame them as I like it when my husband is cooking and resent it when he tries to get me to plan the menu as to me that's part of his job as chef for the day.
When they had kids round for the day I'd usually check what they didn't eat and just cook something. If they are staying for a few days the guest gets some input into meals.
Adult guests going for dinner just eat what they are given, I've always applied the same rules to kids.
I usually said "it's x for dinner is that OK?" If it wasn't I could have done beans on toast for them or something. I work though so during the week meal preparation tends to be fairly brief.