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So it's our wedding anniversary today. Not a major one, (12). So far dh and I have exchanged cards and we received 1 txt mess and 1 fb update from our respective families. No cards etc. Not even from MIL.
Probably unreasonable to expect more but especially disappointed with 1 of my sisters. She made a point of saying how upset she was when hardly anyone remembered her wedding anniversary. (I sent a card) She was understandably upset as she missed receiving a card from our late mum. Well I miss them too. She always sent them without fail.
Realise this could all be a storm in a teacup as cards my arrive tomorrow.
Be gentle as also pregnant and hormnonal.

I don't expect anyone to send cards on our wedding anniversary unless I'm throwing a party. It's between me and DH.

Could this be more about missing your mum?

YABU

Anniversaries are to celebrate between the couple, no one else. I never send cards for others anniversaries, never expect any for my own.

I consider it s bonus if DH and I remember

I think anniversaries are for couples only too.

I wouldn't be offended at all by lack of cards.

You must miss your mum a lot though.

Cards from each other?

DH and I both forgot it completely one year, till my mum phoned to wish us happy anniversary

TBF, our parents sent us cards for the first couple of years, but totally agree with Do.

Didn't realise people didn't normall send cards. I always sent to SIL and sister especially as her anniversary is close to mum's anniversary and we have always received at least some in the past.
Yes, I am missing mum alot still. It has only been 15 months and being pregnant has definately made me miss her more.

That's shit. I'm sorry about your mum .

Thank you foshizzle

sorry about your mum.

we don't recieve/ give cards for anniversaries either

YAnbu to be sad about your mum :( my mum remembers our anniversary too. However YABU to expect anyone else to acknowledge it. Anniversaries are for the couple only.

I wouldn't be expecting anniversary cards from anyone other that my husband and possibly a hand made one from any kids we have or something.

My gran is crazy for sending cards so she'd probably send one too. I think cards represent a nice thought but they're not exactly useful, are they?!

I'll sometimes send/give a card to close friends or family on a 1st anniversary if I see something that means something but, like others have said, it's more unusual for anniversary cards to be sent only between husband and wife.

So sorry about your mum, this has to be a difficult time for you.

aw poor you. Sounds like you're really missing your mum and with the pregnancy too.

But I have never sent an anniversary card in my life. Nor do we get them. Never heard of it to be honest.

YAB a bit U...

We dont even send each other cards on our anniversary.. we just go out for a meal usually, or book our annual holiday for the dates that cover our anniversary.. I think we only ever received cards from my mum and PIL on our first anniversary.. I certainly wouldnt send them to friends or other family.

Sorry about your mum. We had a few in the very early years. We forgot on our 2nd anniversary so both wrote in the card we sent the year before - lucky we both kept them! We have kept that up now for 21 years and will be doing it again next week - on the paper insert!! We have now saved about £84 . We don't get cards from anyone else any more.

I had no idea it was normal to send cards for wedding anniversaries. I don't actually even know when any of my friends/relatives anniversaries are, and while DH and I have not had our first anniversary yet I'm not expecting anyone to make a fuss about it.

I'm not particularly bothered about sending/receiving cards for any occasion really. I know some people like them, but it's really not worth getting yourself upset about.

Um well, do people do wedding anniv cards?

how bizarre!

Sorry for the loss of your mum :( but i don't tend to send cards for anniversary and was shocked to get alot of cards on 1st anniversary this year.

Op happy anniversary hope you and dh have had a lovely day

Thank you.
Maybe its time to stop sending them too.