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AIBU?

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To complain about this? (a bit long, sorry)

18 replies

Clary · 24/06/2012 13:32

Did a triathlon this morning (nothing too amazing, distances were very short) and there was a junior one too. Ds2 (9yo) was desperate to do it but I told him he couldn't as the min age was 10. Ds1 did it and made a brill effort.

When we got there, one of the marshalls mentioend the youngest child taking part was 7. I queried this, thinking of DS2, and so she went off to check. She came back and said, sorry, the youngest child is actually 10 (she hadn't realised till I told her that the min age was 10).

Ok; so I did mine then Ds1 is going to do his swim when the other DC point out a girl in the pool who is at their school in yr 3; she is 8 and had boasted to Ds2 on Fri that she was doing this triathlon. He was annoyed that I had not allowed him to do it - I pointed out again that it's important to follow rules and I am not going to lie about his birthday. (Either this family had lied to the organisers, or they were deliberately misleading me.)

Besides, and rather more to the point, the 10yo rule presumably was there for a reason, most likely insurance to cover liability for the event, in the same way that our local panto stipulates 10yos and over to be in it.

So AIBU to report this to the organisers? I suspect I sound like a bit of a busybody, and I am rather annoyed that this family think they are above petty rules about age because their daughter is a good athlete; but also I am annoyed on DS2's behalf as if the rule was not a rule, more of a suggestion, he could perfectly well have taken part too.

In addition there is the issue that if people continually flout this kind of rule, organisations who stage events like this will get clobbered over insurance and wll ultimately perhaps have to stop staging them, or maybe charge a lot more, which I don't want.

Phew! Sorry for long post but what do people think?

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 24/06/2012 13:56

Complain. I would - and I would do it completely because my child had obeyed the rules and missed out, and this other family think it's clever to lie and cheat to get what they want, and are teaching their child that this is ok. It's not.

SeventhEverything · 24/06/2012 13:59

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phantomnamechanger · 24/06/2012 14:00

we had the same in reverese in our village fun run last yr - older kids this time running in with the littlies "because they wanted to" - so their indulgent "we dont have to play by everyone elses rules" parents let them - so not fair on the little 4/5/6 yos competing against lanky 8 yos!

WorraLiberty · 24/06/2012 14:42

No I wouldn't say anything.

It's not the end of the world and rather than stop staging them, I'm sure they'll just start checking ages more stringently.

Clary · 24/06/2012 21:03

Thanks ladies, I agree older children racing against younger when they arre not supposed to is just as annoying!

I think I will let them know in general feedback as overall the event was really good and DS2 will deffo be up fr it next year.

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sashh · 25/06/2012 06:44

I'd be considering social services. Ages for sports events are usually because it is a health issue.

MissRepresentation · 25/06/2012 08:59

Social services? are you mad?

GrahamTribe · 25/06/2012 09:03

I'm sure Social Services have nothing better to do with their time, sassh. Hmm

I wouldn't report it. I don't get too stressed by the little things.

DeWe · 25/06/2012 10:23

But if the parents say they're 10, there's not much the officials can do.

ripsishere · 25/06/2012 10:27

YANBU, ages are put in place for a reason.
SS is way OTT BTW.

WilsonFrickett · 25/06/2012 10:32

YANBU, presumably the difficulty of the event was also carefully targeted to the age limit. I would just give some non-specific feedback, that you were aware there were some under-10s competing and could they clarify the rules for next time.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/06/2012 11:28

DeWe - maybe the organisers are going to have to ask to see proof of age for children taking part. Which will be extra hassle and work for them, and might put organisations off organising childrens' events - not that the selfish parents who lied about their childrens' ages will realise or care.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 25/06/2012 11:40

I would make sure they know what happened and that you aren't happy about it. They should take it seriously, as it could well affect their insurance.

Pixieonthemoor · 25/06/2012 11:47

PomBear has it spot on.

mollymole · 25/06/2012 11:54

You should put it in writing to the organisers and ask them to clarify the rules regarding under age competitors. I am involved in athletics and ages are there for reasons, insurance AND the well being of competitors. There are minimum recommended ages for various disciplines, distances etc relating to age and gender and these are there for good reason.

Re the older kids taking place in younger kids events, I am a firm believer in the size category for under 10's in fun events. I use a measuring pole marked
in colours and kids take part alongside those of similar size. This stops little Jonny who has been 7 for the last 3 years winning everything.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 25/06/2012 11:55

I think if you got in touch and explained that you'd realized there was an issue, and you wanted them to know because you thought the age limit might well be an important one, that will go over better than 'complaining' and is more likely to get a sensible response.

It sounds like a miscommunication between the people organizing.

loopyluna · 25/06/2012 11:58

I remember calling a music group to enrol my 2.5 year old and being told that she was too young. I pointed out that a friend if mine, Mrs S, had enrolled her daughter who was just 2 days older. The organiser checked her list and said, no, Mrs S's daughter is already 3!
I was furious with my friend for lying about her child's age to get her into a group but didn't dob her in!

In the case of OP, I wouldn't bother saying anything now the event is over, but if its an annual thing I would definitely mention it next year and suggest they monitor ages better ir change the age limit.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 25/06/2012 12:01

It's done now so whats to do be gained by reporting it now?

As for social services - WT actual F!! I really think they have more important cases to follow dont you sashh?? Confused

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