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To not want DH to come home from his weekend away until after the football ?

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rookiemater · 23/06/2012 19:14

Dh is away for the second weekend in a row Hmm. To be fair it doesn't happen that often and its just bad timing.

His train gets in at 7.30pm tomorrow night, the England match starts at 7.45pm. He likes to watch the match in complete silence with the TV on loudly and gets annoyed if DS or I interrupt in any way. Fair enough except DS has not seen him all weekend or last weekend and will want to spend time with him until he goes to bed and will not understand that DH wants to watch the football and will likely end up shouty at DS. I will also be annoyed that after being away all weekend I will still have to put a ( probably upset) DS to bed.

Therefore AIBU to suggest that DH finds a pub in town to watch the match and comes back once it is finished?

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JeezyPeeps · 23/06/2012 19:15

YANBU. I'm sure he'd love the idea too!

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rookiemater · 23/06/2012 19:17

Well you would think but no he is a bit grumpy about it. Methinks he will be tired and hungover after his weekend away and wants to watch it with home comforts.

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JeezyPeeps · 23/06/2012 19:24

Bugger. Well, his home comforts include you and your DS, and if he's been away he has to expect that DS will not want to wait to speak to him and spend time with him.

Basically make it clear that if he wants to watch the football in peace, he needs to watch elsewhere. If he comes home then he accepts that DS WILL be noisy/want to speak to him and spend time with him, and he needs to be okay with that and not a grumpy sod!

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rookiemater · 23/06/2012 19:29

I have done jeezypeeps but feeling a bit guilty about that, will send him a text to reiterate the point.

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PuppyMonkey · 23/06/2012 19:31

Sabotage the telly.

wineandroses · 23/06/2012 19:32

How about if he/you record the football so that he can watch it once DS has gone to bed? So long as he doesn't watch the news/radio/talk to friends before he watches the match, then it will be just the same as if it were being played later and he gets some lovely time with DS first!

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 23/06/2012 19:33

Ooh, yANBU.

But then I loathe football and tolerate no idiocy in terms of silence/no interruptions for any TV of any kind.
Fortunately DH is of the same mind, having grown up with a father who did the whole 'silence I'm watching the news/match/race'.

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rookiemater · 23/06/2012 19:38

Good idea puppymonkey but we have 3 tvs - and normally he watches matches in the conservatory so he isn't disturbed - and normally I don't have a problem with that.

Wineandroses thats an idea, I might pause the tv - DS should be in bed by about 8.30 so DH won't be that late to start watching it ( although he does like to watch the post match waffle as well)

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ChaoticismyLife · 23/06/2012 19:39

Don't feel guilty. Why should you? Confused

I cannot believe that your H has spent all weekend away and then would rather come home and watch yet another match rather than spend a bit of time with his son.

PuppyMonkey · 23/06/2012 19:41

Sabotage your electric supply. Grin

AThingInYourLife · 23/06/2012 19:44

YANBU

I can't believe he thinks it would be OK to come home after a weekend away and ignore his son for an hour until the boy went to bed.

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rookiemater · 23/06/2012 20:03

I don't think DH has thought about it deliberately, he has a rather optimistic view of how things will turn out. I will suggest that he pauses it until DS goes to bed, hopefully that will work.

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GrahamTribe · 23/06/2012 20:08

I can see why your DH would want to enjoy the match uninterrupted (so do I!) but, as he's had the whole weekend to relax without any family responsibilities even I would be mighty pissed off if he just came in and ignored me and the DC to watch the match in silence. Watch it, sure, but interact too. If he can't do that it's maybe best he stays out but it would piss me off if he did!

Fourlotsoftrouble · 23/06/2012 20:14

This can not be a serious thread surely! We are talking about a grown man arnt we!! Football taking precedence over his son!! I am astounded! It's men kicking a silly ball on a pitch!! He needs to grow up & op you need to tell him to do so.

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rookiemater · 25/06/2012 18:59

OP here with quick update for anyone interested.

DH got a taxi home so was back in time for kick off. DS was playing at his friends, when he came back DH paused the game ( because I had asked him to ) and looked after DS until bed time, then watched the rest of the football. I'm not sure if he would have paused it if I hadn't asked him to, but he seems to have got the message and thank goodness England are out of the competition so we won't have any football shenanigans on holiday next week.

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amothersplaceisinthewrong · 25/06/2012 19:01

I think some serious training of this DH is necessary. Like you going out alone while the football in on next time. Start now, it takes years ! :)

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rookiemater · 25/06/2012 19:09

Maybe I should have gone out but I was a bit tired after the weekend - I shut myself in the bedroom when asked if there was any dinner though.

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