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To think i have THE most insensitive prick of an other half ever

46 replies

Wheresmygalaxy · 23/06/2012 14:31

Im 1 week overdue, been together 12 years never had a problem, maybe its my hormones but you decide:

i rang him in work today to tell him my contractions had started, he replies well im sending my mate round to finish putting down the laminate flooring, i tell him not too, im alone at home his mate will surely understand why i dont want company. An hour later his mate turned up anyway. since then ive been sat up in bed crying my eyes out, half an hour ago his mum and dad also turned up and are making cups of tea for everyone, his mum can barely see so ill probably get up to a filthy kitchen with tea bags everywere like last week.

In just the past week hes managed to piss me off by going out to watch the match while i was having a sleep and in pain, didnt know where he was, when i rang he was at a neighbours. we also had an arguement cos his ego wont let delete someone of facebook that used to be my friend, we fell out ages ago and havent seen her for 6 years, i asked him to delete her he said it was bad karma Hmm. and as he asked me to check something on his facebook yesterday i also saw this week his ex has been back in contact with him - his ex i might add of nearly 15 years ago, any other time id just think its an old friend thing, theyre still on good terms etc, but this girl made my life hell when i 1st got with him for the 1st 3 years i was verbally abused by her and her firends, even excluded from weddings and such events as she didnt want me there.

i wonder why though of all the weeks, she chose this week when im due to give birth to get back in touch. maybe im being paranoid, through pain and lack of sleep, i could really kill him right now for how hes made me feel this week, i feel like im last on his list of priorities. so while im sat up here having contractions listening to the sound of a circular saw and them all having a good old catch up - we dont have any doors on the rooms yet as theyve been sent to be stripped so makes it even harder to stay calm without wanting to kill them all!

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HoneyDragonWearingLederhosen · 23/06/2012 15:43

Your doing well, my dh was trapped in snow when u was in labour do called my mum and sent her round.

Mentally I killed her at least 35 times. Her main offences were

Being my Mum
Talking
Moving Stuff
Fanning around
And breathing.

Good for you for managing. Get to hospital, kick dh in the gonads and blame a contraction, you'll feel much better Grin

WorraLiberty · 23/06/2012 15:47

Honey perfectly put Grin

Good luck with the birth OP.

griphook · 23/06/2012 15:51

Is your dp on his way home to support you? I really hope so, as soon as he gets there get him to ask mil to leave

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 23/06/2012 15:57

Yep, his behaviour would certainly signal to me that I wasn't on the top of his list of priorities All of it.

grumblinalong · 23/06/2012 16:00

Good luck with the birth! YANBU - nobody in labour is unreasonable.

Do you think your IL are hanging around because they're concerned and don't want to leave you alone? Your DP does sound like he's being a prick but tbh men are usually useless at this point because they're bricking it and don't have contractions/labour to focus on. Just tell him to get the fuck home.

hermioneweasley · 23/06/2012 16:06

Where is your partner? Why is he sending his mates to do floors instead of coming home?

dreamingbohemian · 23/06/2012 16:07

Is he coming home??? What on earth is wrong with him?

Chuck them all out FFS. It's your house too!

WhiteWidow · 23/06/2012 16:11

Oh dear.

Send them all home, get him on the phone and tell him to come home NOW. I'm absolutely go smacked he hasn't done this already. Doesn't he realise you're nearing birth Confused

And the going out while you were sleeping would be the deal breaker for me. My ex used to wait until I was asleep so he could go to the 'pub'. Not that I ever stopped him going to the pub, but at four o clock in the morning what 'pub' would be be going to... I used to wake up alone and with no note, having to ring around for him. The thought of it makes me sick.

Anyway I really really hope your birth goes well. Please come back and update us when you can. And kick his ass!

WhiteWidow · 23/06/2012 16:12

In fact your DP sounds just like my ex. He hasn't got a Liverpool tattoo by any chance has he Blush :o

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 23/06/2012 16:14

I cannot imagine having anyone in the house while I'm in labour. I'd have bellowed at them by now

WhiteWidow · 23/06/2012 16:15

I know we're English, but why do people see every drama as an excuse to come round and help theirselves to tea!!!

AThingInYourLife · 23/06/2012 16:16

He knows you're in labour and he's got someone in to do the floors against your expressed wishes?

C u n t

JarethTheGoblinKing · 23/06/2012 16:17

Have you kicked everybody out yet? Kicked your DP in the nards?

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 23/06/2012 16:18

I hope OP is on phone to her "D"P and telling him to come home. I can't fathom any excuse for this crap behaviour

Wheresmygalaxy · 23/06/2012 17:02

Thankyou, seriously all of you, I've been the lowest today I've felt in years but some of these messages have really cheered me up, dp is home, everyone has gone he is downstairs cooking tea, this is all I wanted to be on my own for a while in quiet, his parents didn't know iwhat was happening, he'd told them I was in bed so they probably thought sleeping, still didn't stop fil singing don't stop believing at the top of his voice though.

I know its only early labour I'm currently on 3 contractions an hour, its my 1st though, scared as can be and just needed some support and a rant, seeriously thankyou again!

If and when the birth does indeed happen I will update, and I'm counting down the seconds to kick dp in the nuts and blame a contraction!

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bogeyface · 23/06/2012 17:07

I bit mine. Hard.

His arm, not his nuts, I do have limits!

Good luck and make sure that your DP knows that you expect him to up his bloody game from now on!

WhiteWidow · 23/06/2012 17:09

You'd also be well within your rights to break a couple of fingers... During a particularly powerful contraction of course ;)

bogeyface · 23/06/2012 17:26

I do know of a woman who nutted her husband during labour! She was hanging round his neck and flung her head forward and cracked him across the bridge of his nose :o

She swore blind it was an accident......yeah, I believe you, thousands wouldnt :o

HoneyDragonWearingLederhosen · 23/06/2012 17:31

thatta girl Wink

Wheresmygalaxy · 23/06/2012 17:47

Bite
Butt
Kick

I shall remember all your wise words and by the sounds of it im dreading transition already Sad

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HoneyDragonWearingLederhosen · 23/06/2012 18:19

Dreading it? It's great, I told two consultants to bugger off as I was busy having a baby. Grin.

You'll do absolutely grand, I promise Smile

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