to not clear away DP's dirty plate etc.

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DP has just gone out to do an hour's work. He made his own full English breakfast, left all the mess in the kitchen, and now left his dirty plate (cutlery akimbo) and mug with tea dregs on the table. AIBU to leave it there for him to clear away? He's quick enough to tell the kids to clear up!

Not at all. Leave it.
(My problem is that I hate having to look at it while it waits for DH to clear it up!)

Leave the plate, then leave the bastard!

YY Convict.
Cut out the middle man and leave him.

And shit in his shoe. Bastard.

Leave the bastard. It will get worse.

Don't forget to vom on him too!

Every night my DH makes himself a marmalade sandwich, and every morning I come down to a bread board bearing crumbs, a sticky knife and a gloop of marmalade.

Drives me fecking nuts.

I am considering divorce.

He sounds very controlling. LTB. IWGW.

He works on a Saturday and you didn't even make him breakfast?

You should count yourself lucky he isn't leaving you...

My DH does the exact same. It's SOOOOOO maddening. I've tried appealling to his intellect by 'explaining' that putting things straight into the dish washer saves time- ie you don't have to set them down then pick them up again to put them in the dishwasher. Also I've tried explaining that it's kind of depressing to clear up the kitchen only to have it in a state as soon as I turn my back - or that's how it feels. This has had NO effect on my DH but maybe it would be worth a try with yours. Good luck.

Stick it all in a black bag - and put it in the boot of his car.

Yep every morning I come down to crumbs kife butter and jam left out on the side

I'll raise you leaving a bowl full of dirty washing up water. We're meant to share cleaning 50/50 but whenever he cleans up he always leaves a few pans in a bowl of dirty water"to soak". and then the sink gets all scummy. In the past I have left it as a kind of protest.... it once took him 5 days to even notice. that really gets on my tits.

severnofnine - at least there's some logic in leaving really dirty pans to soak. My DH leaves a sink full of glasses, plates, teacups and cutlery to soak. Oh, and knives, which means even plunging your hand in to pull the plug once it's gone cold is fraught with danger. The roasting dishes/burnt pans meanwhile are left untouched on the side. Gah!

In response to the OP, obvs it's LTB, surprised you needed to ask

Mine whinged at me the other day that I no longer pick up his cereal bowl that he leaves every morning in the lounge room or his dirty clothes off the bedroom floor!!! I mean seriously WTF is wrong with these men?? And he's always on the kids backs about being tidy

haha - thanks guys. We are not alone.........

Anyone else dying to know if exit is married to Paddington Bear?? Only other being i know who eats marmalade sarnies

I shouldn't complain really as my husband has just done the washing up, but .....when he has made toast he leaves the marmalade / jam / marmite jar on the side, with the knife carefully balanced on top.

Why? If he's going to take the time to carefully balance the knife, why not chuck it in the sink?

He dioesn't own a duffle coat Babylon, and as far as I am aware he has never been to Peru