Think I fucked up slightly

[CrunchyFrog]

Have a good, amicable relationship with XH, but he does not take any responsibility for decisions relating to the kids (vaccinations, schools, medical issues, etc)

I told DD she could have her ears pierced at the start of the school holidays. She's 8.9 years old, very mature and knows it will hurt/ need aftercare. I didn't check with XH first.

He's told her he doesn't want her to do it.

WIBVU to not consult him? They're her ears, and just didn't seem like a big, life changing deal to me (with my 6 in each ear plus nose piercing...)

Yikes. How do I fix it? There is no compromise, either she gets them done now (her preference and mine) or waits until next summer or whenever he decides it's OK.

I don't agree. Neither parent should have the final say.

It may end up that she doesn't get her ears pierced. However, not because the dad says no but because the OP has discussed it with him and agrees.

Well, had a bit of PARD and he's decided it's OK after all, although he thinks she's a bit young. So all's well that ends well. Until the next thing!

I didn't think you were U or had fucked up. You can't be blamed for thinking he wouldn't have an opinion on this when he appears to show little interest in other decisions.

Good news!