Is he EA "D"H

[MeMyselfIrene]

I was seeing a close friend for tea today. Her friend. Her DH appears very charismatic and friendly to the outside world, but he is very cold towards her emotionally. They dont have sex often, he is often working late, jetting off to far places at a drop of the hat. He has chucked the tv out of the house from the bedroom because she was watching it late at night in bed and he was getting disturbed. To top if off he has several women on the go, texting OW's when he is in the room and then telling her to mind her own business when she asks. The list is endless. I dont know why she is with him. when she threatens to leave he sits there doing the puppy eyes declaring himself a changed man.

I suggested to her that he may me emotionally abusive. She was rather taken back and got all angry with me. I have posted this in AIBU because i want to know was IBU is saying he is emotionally abusive? and is he EA?

You have to ask?

He sounds EA to me. And very nasty.

One day your friend will realise. Don't push it, just be there for her when she needs you.

I was with an EA man for many years, and having someone to talk to but not judge really helped.

I dont know about emotionally abusive, he just sounds like an utter cunt and I very rarely use that word on here.

I assume he earns a good living from his jet set job, and she stays because it gives her financial security. I cannot think of any other reason to stay with someone so obnoxious.

If he is shagging other women, she is probably safer not to have sex with him.

Ive googled what EA is, he isnt controlling of her money or of her interests, just with his emotions. For example they fight, make up, and then she messages him that she loves him and he doesnt respond to it. (He works late and shes in bed when he gets in).

CAn you be EA with emotions or am i barking up the wrong tree? As she did get really angry

She earns as much as him so shes not with him for the money!

I think he's just an utter arsehole.

I dunno then... it is quite possible that there are two sides to this and you only get to hear hers.

Well his behaviour certainly sounds abusive. I don't know why or what good it would do to categorise the abuse.

But as Squeaky said, it's possible you're only getting one side of it.

sounds like abuse. why doesn't she want to leave? too beaten down by it?