to think taking your child to a toddler group with impetigo is an extremely selfish thing to do

[BalloonTwister]

Especially now I have spent most of my evening disinfecting all the toys in sodding Milton when I could have been drinking wine and mning

Whoops, child, not toddler group, has impetigo, obviously. [Blush] Although I just KNOW that if there is an epidemic it will be the group that gets the blame.

Yanbu
good on you for sterilising. I hope you have a nice drink at the end

I think its extremely selfish tbh

Guidance is not to isolate once treatment has started. If I isolated DS1 every time he had it, he'd have to live in a bubble.

Thank you sesame. Have wine now and feeling much calmer. What really pisses me off though is that if another mum hadn't asked what was wrong with the childs nose we wouldn't even have been aware of it. [Confused]

I thnk it's selfish too, and if it has to be done then it should come with an offer of doing the boring job you have just had to do.

She'd only started the treatment this morning Crunchy.

Even if they have started treatment, surely young children should be kept away from others until they are no longer infectious?

My son has had this a few times. Each time I have been told by the doctor, and school, that he could not return to school until it had dried out and therefore no longer being contagious.

So if it had dried out, it would be fine. Otherwise, YANBU. Whoever runs the group should of had a word and sent them home.

That would be me Shullbit, and even though my own dd has had it, I didn't realise that is what it was until the mother in question said so.

It was a patch under a runny nose, and I assumed it was because his nose was being wiped a lot. She'd been there a couple of hours before I realised and asked her to take him home.

I did warn the other mums, although I suppose that could be construed as unprofessional, but am amazed that the woman in question was totally blase and clearly thought I was over reacting when I mentioned disinfecting the toys. :(

Oh dear.

Two times out of the three that DS has had it, it's been under his nose from a cold. It is easy for it to turn, as they are constantly rubbing their nose (especially when using their hands/clothing) and it irritates the skin, and it gets infected so always make sure that if you see anything like it again, to ask the parent. But if it looks dried out and any fluid blisters have burst and look like they are healing, they are no longer contagious even though it still doesn't look pleasant (or so I was told literally a week ago and the times before then)

Dd had it in the corner of her mouth, and I am kicking myself for not spotting it sooner today. This wasn't dried out, and the mother admitted she'd come straight from the pharmacy.

Ffs. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth the bloody stress - Its not even as if I get paid! :)

Is it them horrible round looking things on children's skin? if so, you're not being unreasonable. They look so ugly and dirty.

If I were you, I would throw away the toys.

Don't kick yourself. I was surprised when I took DS the first time he had it under his nose but I didn't clock on it was that as it was different to the previous that he had on his hand. Only took him in as I thought he had a chest infection, and the doctor found it. It can appear differently, but now you know, I am sure that you will keep a closer eye out in future.

To be honest I think your over reacting. Do you disinfect all the toys each time a kid sneezes on them, or if you find out a few days later a kid has broken out in chicken pox do you all go in a panic? Most kids I'll pick this up at some point, along with many other things. There's always worse things to catch.

Really bigwheel? So if your child picked it up at a toddler group, and the person running it was dismissive and said something like 'oh, little jonny had that last week, but hey, there is worse out there' you'd be fine about it? Because trust me, the majority of parents are not that laid back about highly contagious skin complaints in my experience.

I had rampant impetigo when I was 17 (God knows where I got it from). It was horrendous. Absolutely fucking horrendous. YANBU.

God.impetigo is rife on aibu! Hope you got a hefty glass of wine!

YANBU, extremely, extremely selfish. I despise parents who do things like this.

Extremely selfish? Mumsnet? Why you no ever think other mums being a bit selfish or a bit rude?

I think taking a child with an extremely infectious skin issue to a toddler group for your own gain classes as 'extremely' selfish.

Perhaps she wasn't aware that it was so infectious. That's a large helping of benefit of the doubt btw

I am sorry you have had to deal with this. Fwiw I think ds2 had it before he had chicken pox, but I didn't know what itwas, then someone at school said their child had had it so I knew - we went to the Dr, were not given a diagnosis but some cream. And when we got back I found he had chicken pox as well

It came up so fast, I had to ring the surgery to apologise, that was awful as I would never have taken him there had I realised. We spent the next week or so in strict confinement!!

I hope none of the others catches it, Balloon.

The thing is most children carry the bacteria in their nasal cavities and linings most of the time - that's where the infection reservoir thrives and for probably 75% of the time it's latent and harmless. But it only takes a tiny break in the skin for the infection to take hold. So isolation once 48hrs treatment has passed and/or open blisters are starting to heal is pretty pointless really - it's already out there in most children anyway. Open sores and non-treatment are of course a different matter and should be isolated as above. On a side note, impetigo and chicken pox tend to go hand in hand because a chicken pox spot gets infected from the scratching and then bingo, the impetigo spreads like wildfire.. Happened that way to both of mine. We always ask for an extra large tube of Fucidin to be prescribed so that I know I've always got some in the cupboard just in case I spot the start of one again.