To be miserable and exasperated by my family's argumentativeness?

[newfashionedmum]

What is it with my 'D'P and DD? I am sick of being argued with. Virtually every conversation seems to go this way at the moment. Thing is, they seem to get a kick out of it. I'm a 'peacemaker' by personality and HATE conflict. Starting to feel emotionally battered. Am better at standing up for myself these days but why should I have to? Aren't we supposed to be a team? DD is only 7, I'm genuinely beginning to worry about how I'll cope when she's a teenager. Cheer me up please mnetters! Or tell me i'm being unreasonable and to pull myself the fuck together.

YANBU. Stand up for yourself even more, especially with DP. 'Emotionally battered' is not a good way to live. If you think your partner is taking advantage of your dislike of confrontation to deliberately pick fights & belittle your opinions knowing you won't fight back, that's bullying. If you are constantly trying to cheer him up or tiptoe around him on eggshells for fear of starting another argument, that would also be unhealthy in a relationship. Partners are supposed to love you and value you... not get a kick out of making you miserable.

Children lean how to behave by copying the adults around them and if he's setting a bad example, she'll follow suit.

What sort of thing? Do they argue every time you tell/ask them to do something?

Long reply timed out! Thanks for moral support. I don't think dd means to be like that...sometimes he seems to genuinely take things the wrong way or get fed up I'm not being considerate or not 'getting' him. Other times yes he just wants to debate stuff...and always makes it so complicated. I've posted about it before. I think I was just exasperated because both of them have been so confrontational the last day or two and then this morning I called my mum and SHE started too. Just having one of those days.