dd had a D&V bug on friday when I was due to work
as has happened in the past I rang her grandparents on her dad's side who were going to pick her up afterschool, told them she was poorly and exactly what with, and how poorly she was, and if at all possible would they be able to have her from lunch time (they pick her up from school alternate fridays and have her for a couple of hours until her dad finishes work and takes her back to his)
the answer was 'yes of course, not a problem fetch her over'
I drilled DD about the importance of washing her hands etc, was greeted at the door by MIL who told me they had hand gel etc etc
DD was better the next day
today I've had a very ranty phone call from the ex telling me his dad is laid up in bed with D&V ad he can't believe how utterly irresponsible I have been and that his dad is really very poorly
told him I was sorry to hear it (which I am because I like his dad, and also I'm a human and do have compassion) and wished him well -to which the reply was -'a bit fffing late now!!!'
is it really my fault he is ill? I know it's not ideal them having her when she is poorly but they are my only option for emergency childcare