How tolerant have you become of other people as you have become older?

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Whether family or friends?,I ask because as I have become older I am less tolerant to be walkover anymore.

When I was younger I would of not of stuck up for myself,and may of followed the pack, or sat on the side lines,and wished I could of did or said something to make a change.?

As an adult what will you now stand up for now?.

Mine would be stand up to a bully, its ok to be different thats part of your make up and shapes you up for what you become and who you will be.

Im interested in as to how its change you?,I know its changed me for the better and only made me stronger.

definately much less tolerant of twattish or rude people, and much more tolerant of the elderly than I was in my younger years..

I think as you get older you care less about what others think about you, and far more about what you think about them. I find it much easier to see that other peoples issues are generally about their own insecurities, rather than something I have done. It makes it far easier to deal with. These days I stand up for whatever I believe in, and no I wouldn't suffer people who think its ok to bully at all.

I am wondering where the AIBU bit is this thread though....

I wouldn't call it less tolerant. I am more confident now, don't really care if everyone likes me etc
Bullying is the one thing I can't stand. Ever.
Strangely since I am not bothered about being popular, I have become more popular at work. I handed my notice in and within 4 hours i had 20 people tell me how sad they were that I was leaving. One even cried. Very strange

Ok so are you tolerant as you have got older of other people? , aibu to ask that?

If other people have been unresonable in anyway,what have you done about that.,abiu to ask that?{grin}.

I'm a lot less tolerant of people now that I've gotten older. Partly because I've been worn down by nasty types whom I trusted. I avoid people in general, but I do care about my friends and family. I just want people to leave me alone now. On the whole, I find people very unreasonable and difficult to deal with these days. Everyone seems so 'entitled'.

In some ways I am more tolerant because now that I am more confident I don't get upset about little things as much and realise that often when people come across as a bit sharp/ stroppy it's them not me so I'm less prickly and more likely to let stuff wash over me.
I don't let other people boss me around, but haven't since I left school and home age 18. I don't stew over things the way some people seem to on here. If someone does something that upsets me I'll tell them straight away.
Much the same as noqontrol

Both more tolerant and less so. I am more likely to insist on what I think is right these days, but far less likely to waste time fuming afterwards. More likely to tell myself that I'll either have to deal with it or let it go.

Far less tolerant of twatish people than I used to be. Yes soon to be ex-FB friend with your downright nasty comments about foreigners ie Ghurkas who risked their lives for your freedom you fuckwit, and anyone who has ever claimed benefits, we don't all have a rich Mummy and Daddy to bail us out, I hope nothing ever happens to you so your DW will have to become one of those dispicable benefit claimants.)

But like others have said I am also more confident so more likely to stand up for what I believe, and either do something to change things, or vent on MN and let it go.

I am very intolerant of lots of people these days and have no time for anyone that treats me badly or tries to walk all over me. I feel like I'd rather have no friends than friends that treat me badly. I also don't care what people think of me these days.

IMO you get better at working out peoples agendas as you get older, and also know yourself better. That IMO makes you more tolerant when you know it's because of insecurity etc, and less tolerant of damaging behaviour. I think you also learn to pick battles better.

I agree 100% with whatmeworry. I used to get really angry when people were twattish, I now either shrug or rationally argue my point. In the past I'd have got very emotional about issues that I could do nothing about.

Yes and no really.

I suppose I am a lot less judgy about things, and will think about why someone is like they are, rather than just making a snap judgement on people/situations.

But, if someone said something rude or whatever, I don't think I would agree with them or be non-commital(sp?) But would probably say something in a non-aggressive way.

I don't know if this because I am a bit older, because I am a mother, or because I am on MN and am now aware of issues, different opinions etc

I think I've become less tolerant and much more likely to tell random strangers off as I've got older, dropping litter, failing to pick up dog shit, people swearing in front of young children, people smoking weed on public transport have all incurred my, terribly polite, wrath over the last month.

I plan on being a lot more louche in my gin swigging, pearl wearing dotage though :)

Far, far less tolerant of taking shit from other people when I really don't have to. Far, far more tolerant of children, those with any needs greater than my own, the elderly, the lonely, the ill etc. I've come to appreciate just how very lucky I am in my life and it behoves me to be more considerate and tolerant of those who're not in such a good position.

Same as everyone else, by the looks of it! I'm much less forgiving of twattery and far more compassionate.

I tolerate a lot more 'small stuff' than I used to. Life finally has got too short to worry about housekeeping, wrinkles, calories and What People Think. Wish I'd got that sooner!

Definately more able to see other peoples side of things. Almost to the point of arguing their case as well as my own!!

However, I am not at all tolerant of people being annoying and rude, where I used to not speak up!

It's not have not not of etc. I've become less tolerant of bad grammar.

I think I've become more tolerant of people in general though.

I am becoming less tolerant and in danger of turning into a grump old dear before too long I just don't take it anymore and i don't think of of as less tolerant just more assertive

I have become more tolerant of big things, less tolerant of small daily annoyances (I don't mean other people's kids by small annoyances, I am more tolerant of other people's kids than I was before I had my own :o) )

Wish I'd had this confidence and attitude when a teenager - how different my life would have been, sigh.

No teenager has real confidence may they may seem like they are confident but they are mostly all insecure imo