If you rang someone's home number and there was no answer, and then rang their mobile and no answer, would you then try the house again .... and the mobile?

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I feel hounded, I think it's weird. She then emailed me. This isn't for anything urgent, just a chat. She's lovely and a good friend but I hate it when she does this. I'm not always available for a long chat, and I know it would be long. AIBU?

I am sometimes guilty of this but unwittingly really. Try home, no answer, try mobile no answer then think I'll leave a message on the home phone.

I wouldn't keep ringing though as then they're see x missed calls and worry it was urgent. I also wouldn't ring home/mobile if the other is engaged.

I just presume if they are not answering hen they're not there so I've never considered the above as hounding. Might need to rethink now.

This is really irritating. Family do it sometimes, but the worst I've had it has been at work, when people in the same office have gone into a meeting or something, then their mobile rings, goes to voicemail, then rings again... and again. Doesn't the person ringing get the message that they're not there? And because it's someone else's mobile, you can't really root in their bag / desk drawer to either turn the thing off / answer it to say 'THEY'RE NOT HERE. STOP RINGING.' Then of course when the person comes back, they ring the caller and have a loud yet trivial conversation. I don't work there anymore.

I would only do that to dh or my mum. Friends = it's weird

On a sunny day? Yes I would do that, and usually do if I'm ringing my folks. Chances are, they're at home and in the garden, but they've got to come in for a drink or a toilet break sooner or later! Maybe just one call to mobile though, as it shows up whereas lots of people (ok, my parents) don't have an answering machine on their landline.

Some people just never use their mobile either though, or can't hear it in the bottom of their handbag if they're out... worth trying a second time if you don't know which location they're in and you want to talk to them.

OhNo - me too, I would do this for family or my husband but not friends.

I never do this, and can't understand people who do. What do they think they're going to achieve? If I don't answer, either I'm not there (or haven't got my phone with me) or am not available to talk, and none of these things will change just because you keep calling!

Either leave a message (or send me a text), or wait for me to call you back!

EighteesChick I totally agree with the work phones comments. It drives me mad when someone's work phone just rings and rings. Doesn't the caller realise that if someone is at their desk, it isn't a long reach to their phone so don't let the phone ring out more than 3/4 times. Arrghh!

if I tried your landline for a chat then would probably text you to say I had called and to say call back when you get a mo.

My mum tries all available numbers

My MIL does this. She calls the landline, then DH's mobile, then my mobile. She once called when DH was out somewhere there was no signal. I was in the bath. When she finally got hold of him (for a chat) he thought I must have been murdered in my sleep or something for not ansswering the phone.

We kindly pointed out that if we don't answer the phone the chances are there is a reason (driving is a great one, she once called to tell us the ferry was cancelled in a almost hysterics, we knew this because funnily enough WE WERE THE ONES AT THE FERRY TERMINAL). She still does it. Last night she called during DS's bedtime routine. She knows the routine (DH does bath, milk, teeth etc, every night) and the timings but she has the divine right to talk to us whenever she pleases, about whatever she pleases. Once she called at ten to eleven at night to ask for someone's address... When we didn't answer she called our mobiles