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To think my partner is out of order?

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Rowood · 19/06/2012 20:38

My two sons and my partners son are watching the match (yawn) with my partner. I am in and out of the room sorting out our baby/hiding from the football.
My children support Ireland because their father is Irish. My son said jokingly as I walked into the room "if Ukraine score I am going to cheer" my partner said "if you cheer you are going to bed".

Now, I'm not sure if it's just me but I think that's really unreasonable- he would never dream of and has never sent any of the kids to bed for any reason before. I looked at him as if to say "what?" he then said "well that's fair enough isn't it?" I never want to not back him up but surely if I don't think he is right I have a right to say so? I said in a quiet voice "Erm not really, it's hardly the crime of the century" and then u spoke to the kids about backing other family members teams if supporting someone who is playing (god I Fkin hate football!) he then went on a rant saying "thanks for backing me up!"
Arghhhhhhhhhh! Kids! Football! Men!

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Sarcalogos · 19/06/2012 20:39

Was he joking? Sounds like a joke to me?

If not. Then no Yanbu. Massive overreaction from him.

sensuallettuce · 19/06/2012 20:40

YANBU - it's the kind of thing my OH would say thinking its funny and not realising it's hurting the kid because it's a dig at their dad insensitive men and football argh you have my sympathies have a Wine

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Rowood · 19/06/2012 20:42

No he wasn't joking because I did say "you are joking aren't you?" and he said no. That is exactly what I thought. Missed that bit out.
The kids are now in bed and he is still in a mood with me. I am snuggled in bed loving it Grin

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holyShmoley · 19/06/2012 20:43

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bigbuttons · 19/06/2012 20:46

I fancy the German goal keeper!

dottygirl1 · 19/06/2012 20:47

Ah he needs to get over himself!!

sharklet · 19/06/2012 20:48

Hmm methinks he needs to get out more...

cantspel · 19/06/2012 20:54

How old is your son because it is a bit of a stupid thing to say as Ireland were in a different group to England and have already gone out the comp so the result of todays match is meaningless to what happened to Ireland

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Rowood · 19/06/2012 20:55

He is 9. Poor thing. Partner is jeering at the football with all the kids in bed. None of the boys are cheering now.

I fancy Parker

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ComposHat · 19/06/2012 20:57

Kind of torn on this one.

Your husband was ott in his reaction, but he is right to challenge antagonistic behaviour that your son was showing.

If it was Ireland vs. England, then yes he'd be well within his rights to celebrate when 'his' team scored. But it isn't, it is Ukraine and is solely an attempt to rile your husband. I won't go into the bigotry and petty-mindedness of the anyone but England mentality, which you may want to challenge him on.

cantspel · 19/06/2012 20:58

I used to fancy Parker when he wore the claret and blue but he doesn't look so good in white.

It was a silly thing for your son to say and your oh replied with something just as stupid.

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Rowood · 19/06/2012 21:01

Yes but he's supposed to be the adult. We never use that as a punishment. Ever.

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cantspel · 19/06/2012 21:04

But your child is 9 so shouldn't be trying to wind up your oh.
And you should have pulled your son up on his anyone but england pettyness.

AltruisticEnigma · 19/06/2012 21:05

OPs son was probably joking and the Dad didn't get that it was a joke and got defensive.

I have the luck of being Irish but only living 2 1/2 years there so I don't have the temper (okay maybe I do a little).

Anyway I hope he gets over himself on that issue. What a weird way to behave. ALL FOR A GAME OF FOOTBALL. :

Urgh.

mamalovesmojitos · 19/06/2012 21:08

Agree with ComposHat and couldn't phrase it better.

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Rowood · 19/06/2012 21:16

They always give each other banter about teams, all the boys do as they support different teams. My son seemed shocked when he said it as he was joking.
It didn't make it any nicer that his son sat there grinning at mine tbh.
Whatever, I'm over it. Thanks Grin

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Shutupanddrive · 19/06/2012 21:57

Leave the bastard

Maryz · 19/06/2012 22:03

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numbum · 19/06/2012 22:08

What shutupanddrive said. Is he usually that controlling OP?

(wonders if there's a full moon tonight in MN world)

mrsscoob · 19/06/2012 22:12

If he's 9 I am presuming he has been allowed to stay up late to watch the football? If he is then going to cheer against England then yea he may as well go to bed :/

ComposHat · 19/06/2012 22:14

I have tried to educate my three, but they could no more cheer for England than fly to the moon. I think it will be a couple more generations before it changes, tbh.

By all means, don't support England, but there's no need to be antagonistic.

Ireland had no stake in that match, so to deliberately rile someone is in my opinion, stupid and petty. It deserved a sanction, but as I said earlier, her partner over-reacted.

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Rowood · 19/06/2012 22:28

That's what I said to him after "if you don't need to watch it don't stay up"
They were only watching til half time anyway.

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Maryz · 19/06/2012 22:29

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Rowood · 19/06/2012 22:49

This is ridiculous. What I haven't added is that I have PND and am trying do hard to stay positive- my partner plays a big role in this as he can be a bit self absorbed at times. I had already put up with him going on and on about what the kids don't eat at tea time. I asked him not to stress me unless necessary and then

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DeckSwabber · 19/06/2012 23:01

I hate this football stuff. Mainly because I don't understand it.

But it seems to me that when a 9 year old enters into a bit of banter about the game, then other adults should just have a bit of banter back.

Being sent to bed over it is ridiculous.

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