To be somewhat put out by lack of Birthday fuss?

[MrsInaPickle]

DH has been more or less laid up for the last 2.5 weeks with a bad back and has only in the last 4 days really been able to get up and go to work for a few hours or get around the house properly. No doubt I am being deeply insensitive but...

I have been running around like an eejit doing everything in the house as well as work and looking after the child, dog etc. so I thought my birthday might be an opportunity to show a little appreciation.

So, firstly no sign of the promised breakfast in bed. When I eventually mentioned it he said 'in a minute I just want to check this thing on ebay' which is what he has been doing for the last 2 or so weeks.

Then no present or card, not even a home made one from the kids - they aren't deprived of colouring stuff and paper and perhaps he could have asked them to have a go?

Eventually his family arrive with a bottle of (the wrong) perfume which he had asked them to get that morning, along with a museumy card that you would give a distant elderly relative which he practically wrote in front of me.

Then I cooked lunch. Then I cooked dinner. Then he said 'shouldn't you put the children to bed?'

Now I know that there are a lot worse things going on the world but I am feeling very hurt at his complete lack of consideration or attempt to do anything nice for me at all. He could have bought me something on bloody ebay.

Humph. AIBU?

It sounds thoughtless - you can buy a card on the Internet

I wouldnt have cooked anything TBH

Would have taken myself out or parked myself on the sofa

Why didn't you?

That is really shit, no wonder you're fuming. I would be too.

Why didn't you tear him a new bumhole when he let you cook two meals by yourself and then told you to put the kids to bed?

Thank you Ladies. It appears I am not alone in thinking that DH needs to rethink his behaviour and apologise profusely for being a complete TWAT. This is obviously never going to happen - any advice? He will just say that I am not showing any consideration for the fact that he is in chronic pain and that he is frustrated that he can't do all the things he normally does (like NEVER putting the children to bed to give me a break. He has never bathed his daughter. This is not good is it?). All probably true but still no need to treat me like the live in help - with benefits. Benefits likely to be withdrawn.

Sorry, sound like a right whinger but birthday really was the pits.

P.s. Could have parked self on sofa but then children would have starved all day - a hungry kid is not a happy kid!