To find it irritating when people comment on me losing baby weight

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I actually do think I am being a bit unreasonable. I suppose people think they are being nice, but it annoys me and I am curious if anyone agrees or if I am being completely unreasonable.
Baby is 12 weeks. I also have toddler so am very busy and really not giving myself any pressure to lose weight or diet yet. think I still have half to three quarter stone to lose before back to my normal weight.
But i really find it quite a rude thing for people to comment on, like its any if their buisness. I think the reason it annoys me is cos it makes me feel people are judging me and assessing whether I am losing weight or not. And it feels too early got that to be of any importance.
Would this annoy anyone else? Or should I just accept it as a compliment?

I also used to find it really annoying when people commented on how big I was getting when I was pregnant.

It is people making general conversation with you. It's that or the weather!

As long as they weren't say to me 'Don't you think its time you lost that baby weight' I wouldn't be worried at all!

yabu, they think they are making you feel good by pointing out your weight loss and how good you're looking, you should accept the complements for what they are.

Ok- thought you might say that. Probably me being over sensitive then!

Yes you're being over sensitive I think...they're just complimenting you.

I didn't gain any 'baby weight' in my 3 pregnancies (well other than the actual baby itself) and on the 3rd day after every birth, my stomach would go back to being totally flat.

I'd get loads of comments on it and I'd just smile and nod because it wasn't like I'd done anything to make it happen.

But people felt they were being complimentary and I suppose that made them feel good.

I on the other hand couldn't have cared less one way or another.

Kill the bastards.

It depends what they say people keep saying to me 'youll soon lose the baby weight when they start crawling' when I actually thought I was looking pretty good and not worried about my weight only my overhang/muffin top. If they say you look good then yabu its a compliment if they say you need to lose weight smack em in the face

not unreasonable.

i recall, in 1982, a friend of the then husband saying to me, three days after delivery 'well, you'll be wanting to get back into shape now!' and my husband agreeing with him! i thought 'you idiots. i've a baby to keep alive. what do i care about my waist?'

Oh I find it really annoying as well, even though it's inevitably well meant and probably much more to do with my own insecurities. Mind you, it is mainly my MIL who makes comments about it and she's weight obsessed so...

YANBU

I felt exactly the same when I was pregs and it's irritating me again now. For a start, I haven't lost the baby weight, but DD is six weeks old and I'm not really in a hurry. But why do people feel the need to comment? Why the focus on weight? If people want to compliment a new mum, or just make pleasant small talk, they can tell her she looks well, glowing, gorgeous, proud, 'natural', whatever. But they don't. It's always slim or, worse, skinny. It's irrelevant and personal and downright annoying.

Ah good thanks. Glad others feel the same. So much pressure on women and their bodies. Pregnancy and childbirth is a time when we really deserve a break from it!

It astounds me how free some people feel to comment on women's physical appearance. YANBU, it's no-one's business but yours..

However, at least you're getting compliments...

Since I had my baby 8 weeks ago I've been told I look haggard, rough, crap. (Not on the same day though I think on some occasions it was the truth...) I did wonder why anyone would feel the need to say that to me....given that I never comment on anyone's looks other than to say they look good!

YABU but possibly I'm being a bit sensitive due to getting grief for not having lost the weight yet.

YANBU. I had a toddler and a newborn, and was irritated by these sort of well meaning comments. Hormonal maybe, but I felt I had bigger fish to fry than to be concerned with my appearance in any shape or form. I didn't like the thought of 'meeting the grade'. But, people are trying to be nice and compliment you.

YANBU

I know people often see it as a "compliment" when people comment you have lost weight but it makes me really uncomfortable if anyone comments on my weight at all, whether positively or negatively. It is really rude and I find it quite a personal thing.

The other week my dad started going to me "you'll start disappearing soon" and stupid comments like this, wanting to know why I had lost weight. I have not even lost very much and he was going ON and on about it. Equally when I was younger and very sporty and very happy with my weight he always used to make comments about how I wouldn't starve, still have some meat on me and utter shit like this. I really really hate it. So, YANBU at all for not wanting comments on your weight. My dad also always comments on the weight of pretty much any female he sees on TV, e.g. his running commentary through Strictly Come Dancing was always weight based (every bloody week he would go "theres not much spare on her!" and it makes me cringe, seems very creepy somehow.

I know a friend of mine also feels the same so it is not just me!

YANBU. It's not good manners to tell someone they need to lose weight at any time, let alone when you've recently had a baby. FWIW I haven't lost mine yet and we are talking stones and years :o

Yanbu. I had people commenting on the fact I was "pregnant" 6 months after baby was born. Actually, no my body takes about 2 years to go back to normal. Gets on my nerves!

YANBU. I think that comments about weight should be avoided altogether, if you want to compliment someone, there are plenty of other ways to do it. When I was about 4 months pregnant and had only put on the minimum weight - (the baby) I had a work colleague say to me that I was really putting the weight on, she knew that I was a big girl (size 12) but bloody hell. To add serious insult to seething injury she is literally about 30+ stone . Just be happy with your two gorgeous DCs and if they comment give a reply along the lines of that you have recently been pregnant, what's their excuse? They should see that they should remove their foot from their mouth and not comment again.

YANBU but I have to say I find it rude to comment on anyone's weight, ever, unless you have a really close friend/ sister you know is on a diet.

I had a colleague at my previous institution who had a condition (don't know name of it) where she could have one child but after that her body just MC'ed every pregnancy. She would get to about 3-4 monts and just be showing and then MC. People who didn't know were always complimenting her on how she was looking slim recently, had she lost weight etc - she had of course

People lose weight when they have bad D&V, are depressed, have stomach cancer - it's not always good. It's a sign of how we value women's bodies that it is assumed that whenever a woman loses fat that is good because all women should be concerned with losing fat all the time.

I think it is a subtle form of policing.

Yanbu, I hate anyone commenting on my weight either way.

I never notice if someone's lost/gained weight anyway unless it's really drastic! Even then I wouldn't comment unless I knew they were doing it on purpose.