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What are the BEST and WORST things your neighbours have done for you?

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PatheticTrumpet · 17/06/2012 19:42

That's about it really - just wanted to know.

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blondieminx · 18/06/2012 18:43

BEST: feed blondiecat whenever we go away, and are good to get together with over a glass of vino

WORST: the very strange lorrydriver in our old village who used to "just knock for a chat" while i was jobhunting post-uni and therefore at home a bit, and wouldn't take the blardy hint that I wasn't interested in him (was shacked up with my soon to be DH) nothing offputting about him wearing a badly fitting wig oh noooo

I know that my worst one is incredibly tame - am totally Shock Angry at how awful some MNers neighbours have been Sad.

oneofthosedays · 18/06/2012 20:01

House we used to live in;

Worst - Used to constantly play loud music and have a constant stream of men using her and her house (used to live in a town centre so was handy for pubs etc) and acting like knobs. Same neighbour had a much younger brother constantly being expelled from school and being allowed to hang around her house all day - he spat on 2yo DD as she played in our yard Sad and used our extension roof for somewhere to sit and smoke. Same neighbour when challenged about said loud music sent our boyfriend and mates to intimidate DH and one got his cock out and waved it at him Hmm. To top it all they also put in our front window in the middle of the night.

Best - Next dr but two to old house - called police after aforementioned window smashing, stayed out on the front to watch over the house and stopped some of bad neighbours dick head friends from climbing in and nicking stuff. We were upstairs fast asleep! Same neighbour was also witness to other neighbour on the street crashing into our parked car, proved really valuable as the claim was an arse to sort out and without their witness statement we'd have been screwed.

House we're at now;

Worst - Batty old neighbour continually coming round and alternately asking for help with various thinks and accusing DH of stuff like filling up her bins (once threw all her recycling into our garden), poisoning her and of having various fancy women round when I wasn't there. After speaking to other neighbours turns out she had previous form for this. She is now in a care home though, incidents seem to have been the start of a downward spiral of some sort of dementia and I actually feel quite sorry for her now.

Best - Takes parcels in for us and is very easy on the eye Wink

TheRhubarb · 18/06/2012 20:07

Wow, some downright nasty and yet some lovely neighbours on here!

Some of our worst were neighbours who would blast out music every single day in the summer so that no room bar the bathroom in our house was free from their music which would start at around 11am and continue until 11pm or later. When we once invited friends round for a BBQ we asked them if they would turn their music down just whilst we entertained. They did, then turned it up again after half an hour, telling us that was more than enough time for us to entertain and that if we didn't like the noise we shouldn't have moved into a terraced house!

Yet the same neighbours came round to comfort me when we got broken into.

The best thing - well we lived near some Muslim families once. They helped me when I got locked out after a boozy night and one family, when I got pregnant, cooked me a lovely cake she said was especially for my pregnancy Smile

I live next to lovely neighbours now. My one 3 doors down often has 'Wine O'Clock' time with me and accompanies me to the pub.

So no life saving acts of kindness but little acts that just help to make the days that little bit brighter Smile

Lovetats · 18/06/2012 20:19

All of my neighbours are fantastic - I'm very lucky. One looks after my cat when I'm away but the couple next door are the best. The bloke is always helping the kids fix their bikes, trims our joint hedge, puts my bins back etc but was an absolute star when my dog got run over. The wife looked after my kids while he took me and the dog to the vet, carrying the four stone hound as I couldn't lift him. I don't know what I would have done without them that night.

amieis · 18/06/2012 20:38

My old neighbour was the best! I was only 20 and living with my boyfriend who then decided to up and leave, I lost my job and my parents live abroad so I couldn't go home to live with them. Every penny I possed went to my landlord each month, leaving me with nothing to pay into the electricity meter or buy food with. She was my guardian angel and would bring me flasks of tea, do my washing, cook me meals etc. When it got VERY cold over winter (no electri meant no heating as the house had storage heaters) there was frost INSIDE she let me stay with them until I could sort some money to defrost my house! She is the kind of lady who if she had a £ left to her name would give it to someone who needed it more! Her and her daughter got me through a very bleak time
Our current neighbours are the worst however.... They watch porn REALLY LOUDLY, have at least one tv on all hours of the day at the loudest volume possible, constantly have people coming and going slamming doors and shoutin, again all hours of the day. They have a MASSIVE rottweiler who has broken through our fence numerous times. They never mow their lawn. The swear and shout at each other in the middle of the street, but the worst thing is that they have a dirty great rat living in the garage at the bottom of the garden, which they are unwillling to do anything about (and told mil to fuck off when she asked them)

SweetestThing · 18/06/2012 20:48

We've always been lucky with our neighbours. Current ones have both been great about taking in parcels, feeding cats etc but stepped up a notch last year when I had surgery and radiotherapy and they took in our laundry and returned it all perfectly ironed, cooked us meals, offered to do shopping, signed up for the rota for driving me to hospital and much more. Very, very lucky, really.

PreviouslyonLost · 18/06/2012 21:04

Worst neighbour?...The noisy, adrift one who set fire to her flat upstairs with an unnattended candle while SHE was in a pub down the road three weeks before Christmas 1990'something, whilst the Fire Brigade were on strike, took an age for the Army and Green Goddesses to arrive Sad

azazello · 18/06/2012 21:16

Best- neighbours who take in parcels, let the children play with their dog and organise street repairs etc.

Worst- the neighbours who ran over my cat and said to my 4yo 'we've run over a grey cat, is it yours'. Gits.

BedHeadTigi · 18/06/2012 21:21

I have never had really nice neighbours, but had plenty of dodgy ones. The last one we had threatened to stab my DP, what a lunatic!

minimuffy · 18/06/2012 21:30

worst- young guy in first flat having lots of loud parties and his 'friends' fighting in the hallway, had to call police on him a couple of times.

in current house- just moved in, DH told her i was pregnant and she asked if it was a mistake! then in dec 2010 when i had DD who was in neonatal, she shoveled the snow off her half of the stairs onto our stairs! they are shared front steps! not the worst thing in the world, but certainly not helping fter being at hospital all day and generally feeling like crap. my work had also sent me flowers and she had took them on and not told us! i wouldnt have know if it wasnt for a colleague telling me!

best- current neighbours after the woman moved out. they have a DD same age as my DD. look after house when we're away, generally have good chat. cooked dinner for us when oven broke halfway through coooking. just generally brilliant! i wish i could nominate them for a good neighbour award!

all4u · 18/06/2012 21:41

Over a decade ago we moved from commuting in Surrey to a farm in Wales and by sheer good fortune bought one in a friendly community that has been so kind! When the children were born neighbours - from farms over a mile away some of whom we hadn't even met - came round and offered the baby a pound coin (if s/he reaches out and grasps it is it supposed to be good luck!) and little gifts
The population is sparse and aging so babies and children are particularly appreciated by everyone - now they are older they can go visiting or on their bikes and we don't need to worry because everyone is looking out for them
We are far from the main roads you see - so glad we made the decision! Mind you friends did the same 25 miles south and their community is quite horrid to all incomers and I wouldn't live there for anythingHmm

LibrarianAli · 18/06/2012 21:45

I've been reading this with interest to see if any of the neighbours are me.

We live in a semi, and HATE the people in the house we are joined on to. He is thug, she's a slapper. They scream at each other and at their poor kids (I've heard her shouting 'Do you want me to pull your hair again?' at her toddler), the children scream and sob almost every evening, and most mornings and when they're not having screaming rows, they're having very noisy, unpleasant sounding sex (wouldn't be surprised if the kids were in the house). I've felt the full force of her tongue when I mentioned I might like to trim the massive conifers in our front garden... she came round in her dressing gown yelling that no-one has a right to light and she can do what the f she likes with HER trees. Also, they have a massive trampoline.

The side not joined on to us are lovely, we chat over the back fence, DH plays football with him, I have a cheeky cider with her, it's nice.

I wish we could move sometimes, but I think at least it's the devil I know.

hiddenhome · 18/06/2012 21:47

Best = Nowt
Worse = one of them has been spitting on our car windows for the past 8 years after dh politely asked them to turn the music down when I was pregnant and sleeping after a nightshift. The person involved has even moved out of the area, but has recruited one of his friends to do it instead Sad

MrsBeaver · 18/06/2012 22:06

Worst: wrote off my car on the day she moved in. The removal van hadn't even left.

BoffinMum · 18/06/2012 23:16

In my old flat I had a neighbour in the flat above who had a lot of sex, and it went on, and on, and on, and on, bouncy, bouncy, bouncy, squeak, squeak, squeak. I would lie there with DH counting his humps - 100, 200, 300. His girlfriends must have been red raw by the time he finished. Unless he was on his own, of course ... WinkGrin

LittleWhiteWolf · 18/06/2012 23:37

The worst were a few neighbours in the cul-de-sac where our first rental property was. At least three homes were friends with our landlady who lived one county over. They would watch us from their windows and we were constantly getting letters from the EA about the most trivial issues (grass not being mown every other day for example). It was horrid feeling watched all the time.

Best are where we are now. This is the house where we have brought home DD and DS as newborns and both sides adore the kids. Mrs next door works at the local nursery and knows DD really well. We also have down the road neighbours who have become real friends, too. Is particularly nice as we live out in the sticks.

saffronwblue · 19/06/2012 09:31

My neighbour recently drunkenly confesed over the fence that both his father and sister had committed murders. He told DH the father's name and we googled it - all true and very awful. He is not my favourite person but I do feel for him as that is a terrible legacy to carry around in your family.

veritythebrave · 19/06/2012 09:46

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rockinhippy · 19/06/2012 09:47

No, he's evil & TF he is going, though he's determined to make our lives hell in the mean time as its our fault his business went down the pan Hmm (it's not) had him drunk & trying to kick our door & window through late Sat night - positive it was him as I could see his outline through the glass, besides no-one else has it in for us but him & its not the first incident - but as he'd ran off before the police arrived, of course nothing was done Hmm

Other neighbours mostly don't interact at all, but one is lovely & will take in our post etc & another is a history buff & has uncovered lots of amazing stuff about our property - love him, he's a real eccentric old bod & a real local character :)

veritythebrave · 19/06/2012 10:19

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tiddlerslate · 19/06/2012 10:27

Best: Current neighbours across the street. She has cats and rabbits and the DD's get to go round and see them. She will take parcels in for me (and vice versa) and her husband jump started my car several times over the winter.

Worst: Ex upstairs neighbour from our old flat. He was a bit of a drinker as was his girlfriend. They had arguments night and day then would shag for hours and hours. We'd here him shouting out whilst doing the deed and her screaming.

He then set his flat on fire one night as he was pissed and fell asleep with a lit cigarette. This was when I was 6 months pregnant. His flat was then refurbished and the builders wrecked our front garden by throwing all the fire damaged floorboards etc into our garden.

I was so glad to move out.

Menroca16 · 19/06/2012 13:05

When we had a bad house fire last year our neighbours (who we hardly know) let us move into their house whilst they were on holiday!!! I am blessed with some lovely ones.....and some not so!

Menroca16 · 19/06/2012 13:08

Oooops to clarify... I am nottiddlerslate neighbour!!! Wink

Lunabelly · 19/06/2012 14:14

Verity, what awful neighbours. I hope they were prosecuted for these criminal acts.

Anyway...

Best; ex upstairs, just lovely, we'd just look out for each other, you know?
My landlady when I lived in another country was supposed to have been ny unofficial jailer. Instead she helped me escape. Ha! Take that, slimeball misogynist ex!

Worst; made out she was my best friend, shagged my husband, then stalked and harassed me about it. Ex lovely upstairs informs me that Worst is now going after new Mr Occupant.

GeorgianMumto5 · 19/06/2012 14:31

Girlwithallamatattoo, how lovely!

Mine are great. One side is somehow always getting into comical scrapes. (I say, 'somehow' but it's not usually that much of a mystery - drink and lack of forethought, really.) He keeps us in game meat and his madcap schemes keep the whole road entertained. He's a lovely, off-beat guy.

The other side are friendly and just so nice to know. We feel very blessed with our neighbours.