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To think that DH is being totally unrealistic about the weekly food bill!

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goingeversoslowlymad · 16/06/2012 23:14

Am getting a bit stressed out about my DH and the grocery shop. Our weekly bill is usually between £80 to £100, we would do a top-up shop of about £20 midweek, so max £120 all in for a family of 4. We do not use nappies, this includes everything including toiletries and cleaning products.

Money is pretty tight at the moment and I can appreciate he wants to try to cut down a bit but I seriously can't seem to get it much lower than this, there are no luxuries in this either i.e wine, magazines etc. Everyone I talk to in our situation seems to spend a similar amount but DH seems to think it excessive.

I'm going to give a veg box and meat pack delivery a try. Also going to order online to avoid being seduced by the offers instore. I don't see it being much cheaper but hopefully he'll stop moaning if I prove he's being unrealistic! What does everyone else spend?

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Cuddler · 18/06/2012 13:17

We spend between 160-200 pound a week and thats for 2 adults,3 kids aged 2,3 and 4 and 2 cats.2 are still in nappies at night.ALso have number 4 on the way!

I dont mind spending this much as i feel like its worth it.When times have been tighter financially we have switched to eating veggie meals,lentil curry,bean chilli,pasta norma,baked potatoes,veg stir fry,home made soup with bread,and made packed lunches instead of buying lunch.

Cuddler · 18/06/2012 13:18

homemade bread is also dirt cheap if you use the cheap ingredients,but then you have to have the time to make it!

Ormiriathomimus · 18/06/2012 13:20

You spend about as much as we do - and I shop mainly in Aldi these days. I also struggle to reduce it at all. We eat lots of veg, pulses and beans too. Meat is much more of a luxury these days,

CrownPrincessOhDearNigel · 18/06/2012 13:24

May I put a word in for frozen vegetables. We have cut down our spending & waste considerably since I switched to using a lot of them. I get peas, corn, chopped tomatoes, mushrooms, peppers, chargrilled veg, carrots, casserole mix, onions, shallots, garlic and other stuff I have forgotten. We grow our own salads as well. We have an allotment which makes a significant inroad.
We have whatever fruit is in season and what is on offer.

I have £50 a week for 2 greedy adults and a 2.5 year old. Everything comes out of that although I do most of my washing at work (hotel with commercial laundry) which really saves a lot of money. I also take home leftover bits and bobs from work that are being chucked out, buy almost exclusively reduced meat and meal plan around what I have. I never pay full price for anything unless I have to. We eat a lot of pasta, rice and couscous and I pad dinners out with lots of veg etc. We have cheap and cheerful breakfasts and lunches like sweetcorn pancakes, welshcakes etc. I buy large free range chickens which will do us 4/5 dinners for £12. I never throw anything away and will cook with pretty much anything. I cook entirely from scratch - the only thing bought in is the £5 a week I spend in poundland on chocolate/crisps for DH.

CrownPrincessOhDearNigel · 18/06/2012 13:30

Not £5 a week - he wishes ! £5 a month

Another one who doesn't use binbags - that's what tesco bags are for..

Wigglewoo · 18/06/2012 13:43

Hmmm well if I can be arsed to meal plan everything down to the very last morsel than I can get away with about 50 a week for me, dh, our newborn (aldi nappies!) And our dd aged 9. BUT - its boring. And I find by the middle of the week everything Aldi drives me nuts, so I go to Tesco's and spend probably 25 ish on stuff we don't really neeeeeeed but I just want- like tesco finest new york cheesecake for £4 (oops).

If we are totally broke though Aldi is amazing. I particularly love their big green washing powder like ariel but for £3. I can't drive as just had a c section and dh walked to tescos (he doesn't drive either) to get shopping and brought the Ariel one for £7 which was on special and I nearly cried!! Lol.... Double what we normally spend!!!! Ah well... (He's trying I know :) ) .

salemsparklys · 18/06/2012 13:56

we spend anything from £150-£200 per week, 3 adults, DD1 &DD2 plus DS who is 1, 3 cats and a large dog, extras are veg for the horses.

TobyLerone · 18/06/2012 14:05

We spend around £80/week for me, DP, DS(12) and DD(11). That includes any little top-ups for veg/salad etc. I vaguely meal-plan in my head, but nothing binding.

I'm definitely going to start buying more frozen veg, though. We waste quite a bit of veg at the moment.

fuzzpig · 18/06/2012 14:57

I think it is quite hard if you don't have storage space. Our current place has a teeny tiny kitchen and apart from some extra tins we don't have space for bulk buying. Same with freezer - due to being coeliac DH is given his bread 8 loaves at a time so obviously this takes up space. Wish I had the tenacity to organise our freezer properly and have some kind of rotation system but I just... don't!

WhyAlwaysBoris · 18/06/2012 16:34

Sorry if this has already been suggested, i can't read all 17 pages , but we lost a big chunk of our income about 18 months ago and were forced to rethink things. I swapped from Sainsbury's to Lidl and that has halved our food bill ever since. I still pop into sainsbury's to buy stuff you can't get at lidl like tahini and cheshire cheese and fresh mackerel, but often I can not believe the prices when i go in there. There is no aldi near us but apparently they are quite similar, so if either of these chains are near you might be worth popping in.

mathanxiety · 18/06/2012 17:29

You are paying a lot for packaging for those breakfast and lunch items, esp the individual boxes of cereal and raisins and the squeezy yogurt.

Tuna and lunchmeat are very expensive.

Hellmans mayo and Heinz ketchup -- waste of money. Store brands taste the same, and if slightly different, it doesn't take too much time to get used to the other.

A better breakfast is homemade waffles that you can freeze and then toast to defrost. Or if you have the time, pancakes. These can also be made ahead and frozen and defrosted. Can be served with cheap jam. You can also make your own granola with oats, leftover dry cereal, dried fruit bought in bulk. Porridge can be varied with dried or frozen fruit.

'bleach, anti bac spray, bathroom cleaner, toilet duck, washing up liquid, pan scourers and all purpose cloths. '
You don't need all of that.
Bleach and wash up liquid will do your entire bathroom. Anti bac spray in particular is a total waste of money if you're also buying bleach.
You can reuse all purpose cloths after soaking them in a little bleach to kill off bacteria and mildew.
A little bleach goes a long way.

Soap is cheaper than shower gel. You can shop around and find one that doesn't melt when exposed to water and steam.

As long as the toothbrushes have bristles that are fairly straight, I just bleach them and don't replace until they are in bad shape.

I buy the cheapest toiletries, tp, tampons and pads and never use the full measure of laundry detergent, or softener. I don't use paper towels --reusable cloths are fine.

I mealplan and buy from ethnic groceries, mix mince with lentils (drain fat off cheap mince), use leftovers, do a lot of home baking, buy tins of tomatoes for sauce and whiz in blender, buy frozen fruit and large tubs of yogurt (the DCs like smoothies but don't eat a lot of fruit otherwise) -- frozen tastes just the same as fresh in pies or other desserts the odd time we have dessert.

Frozen veg is fine too. I only buy fresh if they are almost giving it away, and then blanch and freeze anyway.
I buy garlic and onions fresh (and loose) and store them in the fridge to prevent spoilage.
I don't buy a lot of potatoes because they don't store well -- we eat a lot of rice, couscous and pasta that can be found on sale or in bulk/loose in ethnic places.
I buy dried herbs and spices at ethnic groceries. Buying little name brand jars is a huge waste. I keep them in repurposed plastic tubs or in the name brand jars that I have from years ago before I wised up.
Dried beans are even cheaper than canned. Takes planning to use them though.
I don't buy free range or organic unless cheaper than regular but for my stock I use wings, backs or necks that are organic. I make stock from chicken bones; cubes are mostly salt and flavour.
I never use foil for a roast. Sear at high temp initially in the oven and then lower the oven temp and you will have a nice tender roast.

The DCs bring warmed up leftovers to school for lunch in flasks. I only have goodies that are home baked or else the cheapest I can find.

I reuse shop bags as bin bags, reuse tin foil and wash out freezer bags. I swore I wouldn't turn out like my mum but there you are...
I never buy cling film as it can't be reused easily. I reuse plastic tubs and keep leftovers in those.

I spend far less per week than 120 quid about half or less in fact, and I have me, DS, and the three DDs here. When DS returns to university the bill will be even less he accounts for about half of all food consumption right now. I use milk in cooking and in my tea but they drink non -dairy milk as they have intolerances/allergies. I have only one non-teen among the DCs. And there is the cat.

We don't buy coffee or alcohol or fizzy drinks. If I buy the odd bottle of wine it is plonk. The DCs are welcome to buy their own treats themselves, same goes for anything beyond basic toiletries. I terrorised them when they were younger about using only a pea sized dab of toothpaste so it lasts quite a while.

Outtolunchagain:
Keep a jar of peanut butter handy for people who can't be bothered coming home for dinner or telling you their plans. And a sliced loaf in the freezer.
Sit them down and have a meeting -- they don't respect you, your time or your work if they fail to communicate about meals, eat what you have out for the evening meal before you have a chance to cook it, or eat on the train and don't feel like the meal that you have prepared. I suggest they all get involved in meal planning, food shopping, and that you assign a rota of meal preparation so that they start to appreciate what you are doing.

mybabyweightiseightyearsold · 18/06/2012 18:24

Learned so much - like, my disorganisation has turned me into a spendthrift!

But - Lidl's wine? Really?

I have no developed palate (what I like most from my wine is a bouquet of change, or at least a special offer!) but the only bottle I bought from there was absolutely rank.

Recommendations?

cureall · 18/06/2012 18:33

Mybabyweight - from experience I'd rather get a full price bottle under a fiver in Waitrose than a half price bottle of Kumala elsewhere for the same money; maybe it's just Kumala but it has given me a cracking headache in the past (not the quantity!) and I'm wary of cheap supermarket wine. Waitrose do good Pinot Grigio and Valpolicella.

bogeyface · 18/06/2012 18:51

Aldi's £2.99 chardonnay is the new black! Its Grapevine chardonnay and everyone was raving about it so i bought some and its lovely!

bogeyface · 18/06/2012 18:53

Kumala is drain cleaner...cant stand the stuff, the Aldi one above is much nicer and at £2.99 if you dont like it you can cook with it!

Sleepydog · 18/06/2012 18:54

Aldi's wine has won awards.

here

Fluffycloudland77 · 18/06/2012 19:06

Actually I had a chilean sauv blanc from aldi which was £3.99 which I thought was ok. I have a WSET certificate A grade so I'm not clueless with wine. I bought one the next week from Asda for £8 and it was paint stripper.

I didnt like the cider though, too weak. Rossini beer is nice but Asda do big bottles of stella for about £1.30 near me so it's cheaper to get that.

Wines like anything else, try it and if you dont like it take it back.

You couldnt get the red toro loco wine in my aldi for ages after it won an award, I've still not tried it.

staranise · 18/06/2012 19:14

I've started making my own washing powder/cleaning spray/fabric softener etc - the blog hannahsews has the recipes and I bulk buy the ingredients (bicarb, bodax, lemon oil etc) from summer naturals website. It is lots cheaper than supermarket stuff and smells nicer.

DumSpiroSpero · 18/06/2012 19:50

Wiggle - if you've got a Sainsbo's near you their Basics cheesecake is only £2 and is scrummy!

LittleHouseElf · 18/06/2012 20:08

I feel very Blush as I struggle to keep the supermarket bill under £300 per week for 2 adults and 2 teens (and big dog and 2 cats). I will do better! £120 sounds incredibly low.

bogeyface · 18/06/2012 20:12

£300 a week?

Excuse my language but what the fuck are you eating?!

littlesue · 18/06/2012 20:12

Our weekly shopping bill is around £100-£120 not including lunches for 2 adults and 1 child. We don't drink or smoke but it includes cleaning products and toiletries and the odd treat. I alternate going to Sainsbury's and Aldi where I can get 80% of what I want (don't like the fruit - the berries are often mushy) and save loads.

DH is on a high protein diet at the moment so he eats meat/steak/chicken every night. Lost loads of weight but it is expensive. We also consume a vast quantity of berries - strawberries, blueberries, blackberries and raspberries. I found that it is a lot cheaper eating carbs - rice/pasta/potatoes with meat/fish a few times a week.

I reckon if DH got off that high protein diet and we stopped our berry addiction I'd be able to get the bill down to £60-£80.

mathanxiety · 18/06/2012 20:36

Do you have a link to that blog, Staranise?

staranise · 18/06/2012 20:41

Yes,sorry, wasn't sure if I was allowed to link but as it's not my blog, I don't see why not. It's here - she's hannahsews on twitter, seedsandstitches is the blog, sorry for confusion.

Trioofprinces · 18/06/2012 20:48

This has made me go and look at our grocery spend in the last few months (I am a saddo and download all statements so already have the info). As a family of 4, incl DS(11) who eats as much as an adult and DS2 (8) we gave spent between £470 and £710 per month since January usually around £500-550 so £115-130pw.

It is something I try and keep an eye on (the £710 month was while I was recovering from an op and not in charge of meals!). I like to keep it under £500 but can't remember the last time I got it under £400. I do use some of the tips above but can currently afford what we spend although it is tight. My family wouldn't eat a meal if I'd hidden lentils in it though! Of course if needs must they'd get used to it.

It appears we are fairly normal but could save a bit, especially as I'm starting to meal plan and take control again now. If only there was an aldi within 30 miles...