To consider leaving ill dd overnight with MIL?

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She is 6 and has asthma. She started coughing yesterday and didn't have a good night.

We are due to go to a wedding several hours away and stay overnight. Dh and I have never had a night away together without dcs.

Taking dd to OOH this morning. If they reckon it is a normal cough and cold would it be unfair to ask MIL to babysit as planned? We would make sure she was ok with it before going but is it wrong to ask?

Sometimes dd's cough and cold causes an asthma attack. No way to predict it.

I would say it depends on how your MIL feels about it. If she is ok with it, then fine.

I probably wouldn't want to go if there's a likelihood that she was going to have an asthma attack. And I wouldn't ask someone else to deal with it, because it's frightening for the child and it would be frightening for the person caring for your dd.

I wouldn't but only you know how ill she is and whether your mil would know what to do.

How far away is the wedding?

Take dd to the doctors and take it from there. How is she feeling this morning? Is she used to staying at granny's? Will granny be ok? I've left my son at mil's when he's been ill, she loves nothing better than a poorly boy to fuss over!

It depends on how confident you feel you MIL is at dealing with it, how you might feel at being so far away from your DD and how your DD feels at you being away.

I couldn't do it because I am a) a worrier and b) MIL doesn't drive and lives in the middle of nowhere.

I would do it if it were me, because my MIL has asthma herself, and has brought up a son who has it, so I would know that she is competant at coping if the child did have an attack.

It would all depend on how capable MIL feels I think.

Thanks everyone.

She is gone in to OOH doctor now. She is not too bad this morning but she usually gets through the day fine. It is the nights that can be a problem.

We'll see what the doctor says.

We would be 2 hours away. MIL is a very capable woman who works with children. She has a car and BIL would be home too.

At the moment I am leaning towards going and maybe driving back instead of staying over, depending on what the doctor says.

Fingers crossed.

She has tonsilitis! The doctor said her chest is fairly clear but gave her Prednisone just in case. She has an antibiotic aswell.

To go or not to go. That is the question.

Go.......and try to enjoy. MIL sounds quite capable!

Have a chat with MIL...am sure she is hugely capable and will be fine

But I do know my ma used to be very antsy about dd's asthma, although dd has always managed it and we only eve had the one emergency dash that diagnosed her.

If dd is not being a big clingy thing and is happy to go to your MIL ( and she is happy to take her) then I'd certainly go, but make sure I had my phone on and maybe stay off the booze just in case.

Thanks.

DH is gone to talk to MIL now.

Can I please take a moment for a self-indulgent rant? I am so fed up. All I wanted was to go away for a night relatively relaxed and worry free. I had a crap time with PND and anxiety and finally feel ok about leaving the dcs and this has to happen.

At Christmas I had a night out planned with some new friends after being lonely for quite a long time and dd had an asthma attack and ended up in hospital.

Poor dd. I know its not her fault and I love my dds a lot but sometimes it would be nice just to have some time for me and DH.

Rant over.

Off to feed them some homemade soup in an attempt to cure them with vegetables

poor you, it does seem that plans are just there to be sabotaged!!

Only another 12 years till she is a proper grown up! ;)