AIBU to expect a thank you at the very least?

[SamuelWestsMistress]

This has been pissing me off now for a few weeks. For the last year and a bit I have stored the entire contents of my friend's flat in one room in our house while she sold her flat, got married, husband found job, and they moved into somewhere new.

They went on holiday and immediately after they got back moved into a new house. While they were on holiday her parents came and took all their stuff over several nights.

AIBU to be really rather fucked off that I never got so much as a thank you text from her for storing all the stuff? I've spoken to her since but she never mentioned it at all.

This is not the first time something like this has happened either. When we got married they came to our wedding (which was a very small wedding and involved us putting up all our guests at a luxury hotel) and we never even had a congratulations card from them.

She can be very me, me, me, my problems but is generally a great friend and fun to be with and adores the kids.

I would say jokily to her next time I saw her, 'so when am I getting my thank you dinner for storing your hordes of junk in my palace wench?' and hope she would take the hint and at least give verbal thanks if not alcoholic/food ones!

What bambie said.

You're right tpo be cross. I guess it could be that she thinks becuase you're freinds (and she would do the same for you) then thanks are unnecessary. I don't agree with that view, and like you would be v unimpressed. Sounds like she needs to learn to stand on her own 2 feet a bit.

When she asked you to store it - how was she? Did she thank you then? Say how kind it was etc?

I would have said thank you at the end as well, I think most people would, but some people think if they have already thanked you - eg when you made the agreement - then they have thanked you, iyswim.

I can't remember Hecate it was so long ago! I know what you're saying though.

I suppose you could ask her if she's got all unpacked and sorted yet and then say "I'm glad I was able to help" and see if she says anything

Very rude IMHO.
A large bunch of flowers and a huge thanks were the very least she should have offered for your kindness.
Still, you'll know next time.

Send her the bill for storage. Look up how much those yellow box places charge and give her a discount, cos she is your friend.

That should elicit at least a bottle of wine and some

I'll never be storing anything for anyone again that's for sure.

Some people take close family and friends for granted and bend over backwards for everyone else. I have a relative who reeled off a long list of names at her wedding of people who they wanted to thank, didn't include poor old dh who filmed their whole bloody wedding day! I also saved her thousands in legal fees when I handled a dispute she had with her employer, she said she would invite me over for dinner to say thanks but never did. Fellow school gate mums and random acquaintances are given flowers and wine for the smallest of favours.

Oh I know people like that too Bonnie! It can become very annoying and upsetting actually. I think it's because they care about what others think of them, and because they consider you as immediate friends/family don't feel they have to try anymore.

But then you shouldn't be prompting her to do the right thing!

I would just chalk it up to experience and if she asks you again to do her a favour, just say no.

She sounds so thick skinned that any prompt wouldn't make a dent ...

I would leave it but chalk it up to experience and make a mental note not to do any favours for her again. I hate ungratefulness, you'd have though she'd have got you a bottle of wine or something as a token gesture.

BonnieBumble, that is so true! I have pulled back from a few friendships where the 'friend' has taken me for granted but profusely thanked others for things. A couple of years ago I gave a friend loads of maternity clothes, as did another friend, who my friend didn't know that well. The other friend got flowers and chocolates, and I barely got a 'thanks' grunted at me when I gave them to her. They were all good brands too, could have made a fortune on Ebay but I gave them to her as she was struggling financially.

Send her an invoice!