AIBU home from short hold- front door open (5 days) cross!

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And other stuff! Here goes-
DD2 (10)was going on 5 day trip with school. On a ferry. DH and I take opportunity to have 4 nights away on our own abroad. Much needed after stressful past year with DD1- but that's another story.

Due to flight times our best option was to leave on Sunday aft and return last night. DD1s trip sets off early Monday morning. No problem DS (24) agrees to stay over on Sunday night and drop DD2 off in the morning.

Needless to say, I leave her packed and ready and give DS checklist (shows disinterest in this) and £40 to take DD2 out for some tea so he doesn't need to cook anything. All he has to do is make a sandwich for her packed lunch as everything else is already in lunchbox in fridge.

DD2 too excited about trip to be bothered we are leaving her. All good, but after landing abroad get call from DD2 at 11.15 at night saying DS is asleep on sofa with tv on too loud and she can't get to sleep. Also that DS gave her cheesy chips from takeaway for tea ( with £40 to spend!!) am cross but calm her down and she says she's fine after sPeaking to me. Worried though, phone DS mobile but no answer. DD has house phone in bed do don't wNt to ring again.

Next morning ring first thing. All fine. Half an hour later get call to say they're at school but DD/DS has forgotten her coat! Will have to make do with flimsy pacamac. Glad I popped couple of extra hoodies in her case as they were only supposed to take one.

Fast forward to last night. Get home late. Front door not just unlocked but OPEN! 4 days post on mat wet. 4 pints milk turned to cheese on draining board. Dirty coffee cups and some beer cans. Also DD has obviously unpacked carefully packed case to put everything in favourite pink case and left out extra items that I packed just in case. So has spent the week on an island with no coat and one hoodie- in this weather!

So am cross. Have got crosser as day goes on. Not picked up DD yet but am not cross with her. Am cross with DS who has been bloody irresponsible and has let me down. Have not spoken to him yet because don't know what to say. He was doing us a favour true but I think I won't be able to trust him again. ( he is normally very good and never causes a minutes worry.)

AIBU to tell him he's let us down? Sorry to go on. Arghhh!

YANBU to be cross with DS. I would be furious.

One question though, did your neighbours not notice a door open for several days? I think I would if my neighbours had left theirs like it and would be concerned enough to go and see if anyone was in.

No one would notice the front door as its shielded by trees from the road. We don't use it either, we just use the side door. Although am surprised that the postman didn't realise something was up seeing as the post was still on the mat getting wet!

That was going to be my next question. There is this myth that posties see things like that and get concerned and phone the police! Clearly really is a myth!

YANBU

I'd be fuming with your DS, it's blatent irresponsibility

Oh I see.

I only added fuel as I realised my demand for 'get your change back' might have seemed grabby. Evidently not

Well, I hope it hasn't spoiled your break and, as no harm done this time, DS realises what a lucky escape there was all round and is suitably chastened.

I can't believe the postie just kept putting post on the mat, seeing it was wet and still there from the day before, and the day before that,

AND the milk delivery, they must have seen the same thing.

For all they knew, something horrible had happened in your house and they just dropped the post/milk and buggered off!