To have screamed at DH that he doesn't find it tiring because he doesn't do it right!!??

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So DH tells me he wants to lose weight and get fitter. I tell him "oh ok, come to my karate class with me."

So he does. He's never done it before so they had him doing very basic stuff. I'm 2 grades off black belt so by the end of the lesson I'm pretty much dying with sweat pouring off my face and my legs feeling like they're about to fall off. We leave, get in the car and DH announces "hmm, I don't think karate is for me". I ask why and he says it's "Boring" fair enough but a few weeks later he says something about "ha! karate to lose weight and get fit? no way, it's nowhere near intense enough, it's easy - anyone could do it." yeah because you spent the entire lesson stood in one spot learning how to form very basic moves!! He disagrees with me and tells me looked around and even the harder grade stuff looked easy. I feel he's just disrespecting me totally here and downgrading what I actually do.

2nd example was that we started horse riding. I picked it up fairly quickly and by the end of my 6th lesson was trotting pretty fast (rising up and down, kills your legs as any horse rider will tell you) and cantering. He on the other hand was still sat on the bloody thing like a sack of spuds bouncing around. Whenever I mentioned how my legs hurt he announced "god you're so unfit, it doesn't hurt me, I'm fine!" yes because you're not fucking doing it properly!!!!

Final example - swimming. We get in the pool. I set off doing my lengths (olympic sized pool) and I am NOT a great swimmer so I stay close to the bars and take my time, rest at each end as I have asthma but generally keep moving. He on the other hand bobs around in the shallow end, manages one length and then says he's bored/cold and we leave after an hour or so. I'm knackered by the time we get out. DH slumps into the car and says "don't know why swimming tires you out so much, it doesn't affect me" yes because you don't fucking do anything when you're in there!!!!

Anyway, he's just asked me if I wanted to take up Squash with him. I refuse because a) he'll get bored and quit on me again and b) I just know he'll stand there and then later announce it is easy and he doesn't know why I'm so tired.

He thinks I'm being a total mardy bitch about it. I am known for being quite mardy so I'll let you decide. AIBU??

ask him why he is so disparaging?

it sounds bloody annoying. boot camp sounds a good idea.

I'm sitting here laughing at your description of your DH. It's hilarious. I think you should go to Squash with him and then report back on here to amuse me!

YANBU to be annoyed though.

I think he sounds really disrespectful of you about the karate.

YANBU for being naffed off. I'd find it very frustrating.

I do think you should do the squash though as there is nowhere to hide on a squash court, if you're not quick you miss it, simple as that. If he's hitting it back every time, he should be sweaty by the end.

I am laughing so much sounds just like me and my DH when we decide to get fit.!Typical bloke !

I can totally understand why you'd be p'd off at him comments, he is somewhat disparaging about your karate achievements!

Go swimming again, but this time tell him to match you length for length, otherwise it's not a fair comparison - not that he should be comparing, but he obviously is. Or go horse riding again, and have a word with your teacher and tell them to show no mercy - we had to stand up / sit down in the saddle whilst the horse was stationary and even doing that six times is a killer if you're not used to it!

Or, tell him to get a personal trainer. They won't stand for any messing about!

Reminds me of a friend's (thankfully now ex) boyfriend. I told him my time for the London Marathon and he worked out I was averaging 10 minute miles, so running at 6 mph. He said "I can WALK at 6mph, I could have walked 26 miles in that time".

Rather unlikely as he was short, tubby, unfit, drunk quite a bit & smoked...

get him to go running, that should make him sweat a bit and improve his fitness

OP, are you married to Daddy Pig?!

YANBU, how annoying. However you should turn this to your advantage. If you're exhausted and he's telling you he's still got bags of energy just say 'great you won't mind if I have a bath while you run the Hoover round and cook dinner.'

You are quite a fit sporty person, don't beat yourself down. Your DH probably feels threatened by you and is trying to undermine you.

families that made me re-consider my 'like' button position

I'm just impressed / jealous you are able to fit that much exercise into your week, but really, he is being a bit of a knob. You actually should go and do squash because its quite hard to play that and not end up a sweating wreck on your knees if you are with a partner of equal ability (assuming you can both hit the ball reasonably well so you don't just serve, miss and then stop and serve again ). Best fitness I had in ages was when my ex (who was v good) was teaching me to play. He'd stand in the court and hit then ball to opposite corners and I had to run like crazy to get it, then back to the centre, then out again - was brilliant!

I'm sorry but your OP and squeaky's reply both made me snigger heartily. You do have a way with words.

But yes, he is being a bit of a prick, isn't he? Tell him when he is two grades off black belt, then he can tell you what it's like as right now he isn't comparing like with like.

People like this drive me nuts - it's why I stopped going swimming with a mate, as she'd watch me heave myself up and down the pool for an hour while she fannied about doing about a lap every ten minutes, look at my red face and say, 'shall we race now?'

His reaction is really disrespectful - it would bother me a lot :(

Your dp is lucky that you haven't killed him by now, he's being really disrespectful Ask him why he's always putting you down.

I had to at your OP and squeakytoy's post though.

Does it not occur to you that he's not as good, and rather than admit it, he's lying to himself and you? I think it's irritating, but it is such a childish thing to do I'd find it hard to get cross because he's behaving like a teenager.
On the other hand, I have always found man-child behaviour a complete turn-off so I'd not be in a relationship with a man like that in the first place.

YANBU. He's putting you down and being disrespectful to your effort. He is also being a complete cock by suggesting he is in any way better than you just because he's not putting in as much effort. And an idiot.

Tell him to stick to origami