To look down the back of DS1's friend's trousers?

[shrinkingnora]

I'm pretty sure he's pooed himself. He went to the loo earlier and got into a terrible tangle and although I've cleaned that up and asked if he needs some clean pants he is insisting he's fine (took him into the other room and asked). Only the smell is not dissipating and he looks a little worried and embarrassed.

Should I insist on a quick peek to check? Obviously am being very tactful and not mentioning anything in front of the DCs (but they are starting to comment on the smell). The real problem is that I am taking them to an event at school at 7.00pm and it I don't want him to be sore and uncomfortable or get teased by the other children.

How old?

Depends, is he 6, 13? How old?

Whoops - he's 4/5. In reception.

Mum picking up at 7.50pm.

Yes, I think at that age you should descreatly have a look, help him get cleaned up and find him some clean stuff to wear

Check and give new pants etc if needed. [Away from other DC of course].

Yes he has obviously made a mess. Get him some clean pants and trousers if necessary. I would

Ahhh bless him. Take him to another room and fresh him up - he will be a lot happier.

phone his mum, she might know if its likely he has not done a good wiping job, or often has accidents, get her to talk to him on the phone?

Of course you should, just do it discreetly

Could you sort him out under the guise of 'right let's get you all ready, so and so- you first' and take them off one at a time?

Right, I'm going in. I did think so but suddenly thought it might be overstepping the mark.

You could tell he should borrow a pair of your DS's trousers to wear tonight to be a bit smarter or something then help him to get changed and check it out then? Perhaps do it in the bathroom and then you can casually say, lets have a quick clean up while we're here, if necc of course.

Yes - if I was his mum, I would definitely appreciate you having a look and sorting him out if necessary.

Yes. My DS is 5 and in reception. He would not necessarily admit to it, but tbh, I would not be happy with anyone whos care he was in who didn't insist on a clean up and change.
Just tell him you know and are going to sort it. I know my DS would accept that.

My friend did exactly this for same age DS yesterday. I was grateful.

Get out the wetwipes and have a good evening.

how well do you know the mother? even if its a false alarm you must tell her what happened (assuming you dont talk to her first) otherwise what the hell will she think when he tells her Xs mum looked down my pants!

as a teacher and a guider, I think you should be very cautious here, I would not be doing it for just any of DS chums, if I did not know the mum well.

He as been back to the loo and is looking much happier and is much less smelly. I left him some baby wipes in there and casually pointed them out earlier. Not possible to contact mum. I will let her know that he might need a quick shower before bed though. Thanks nest of vipers!

PS They're all watching Star Wars and DS2 thinks Yoda is called Odour. Rather topical

Pretty sure Mum will be fine if I need to do anything further. I will leave him a little while and double check before we leave.