Sister in law

[manorborn]

to want my sister in law to text me asking if its ok to come around rather than just turn up

I just can't handle it at all. I find it so intrusive and makes me want to sell the caravan. I feel I have no control over my own holiday. It is sad.

Again, that sounds rude. There are ways to put things, and from your posts I'm not entirely sure you can do it without sounding horrible.

You don't have to have her at the caravan, but there is a way to get some space without sounding like a bitch. You need to get your OH to deal with this in a tactful way.

Dont entertain and engage next time.

They want to be with you, which is nice even though it's royally pissing you off however if they can't look after themselves they'll soon stop.

Or do the same to her in return - but turn up at breakfast time

I'd find it hugely annoying, I LOATHE people just turning up. She may be lulled into thinking that it's ok because you are on hols and also if you all seem pleased to see them when they do turn up. Do what Fruitysummer suggests and leave them to get on with entertaining themselves while you get on with teatime/bathtime/tidying up, or better yet, ask her to pitch in "Oh, what great timing, could you possibly give the kids a bath/ do the dishes/ get the fuck out of my way at this busy time?". Good luck!

All - thanks for the advice! So good to get different points of view. Its the first time I posted on this site and I will definitely do it again. A problem shared doesn't half help!