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Feeling Angry!!!

7 replies

glittertree · 13/06/2012 22:25

AIBU ....A friend asked me if I would babysit weeks ago I said yes at the time but asked her to remind me nearer the time as I have a terrible memory ...

Weeks passed and as its in a couple of days and she still hadnt been in touch I thought I better phone and still see if the girls were coming , also its fathers day on sun so thought I better organise for the girls to be picked up before 2 as I had asked hubbyy what he wanted and he said he would like a meal with is family....thought this would be ok as she had asked me for one day and i said I would have them from fri-sun ...and had totally forgot fathers day to be honest

So I phoned her and said I was asking if they were still coming over and she said yes is that still ok? to which I said no problem at all just wondering if girls can be picked up on sun before 2 as I was going to take hubby out....then proceeded akward silence for a minute with me then saying if thats a problem I could run them home they live 40 mins from me ...

To which she replied very icy that she would be away to birmingham and husband would be in newcastle ...she was very snooty with me and short and I was left under no illusion that she was really peeved with me for suggesting that the girls go home ....but I didnt know that she was going away for weekend as she never told me what she was doing she just popped up on fb and asked if I would watch them....I wrongly thought she was just going out for a night out...

I felt so pissed off when I hung up because the conversation was very strained and she was very off after that ...It was left with her sayingI will try and sort something out ...AIBU surely if your going away for a weekend you would say at the time !!

Rest of conversation was very strained a,

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glittertree · 13/06/2012 22:28

oh dear ....I have made a few mistakes posting it in such a hurry I hope you more or less get the picture

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pjmama · 13/06/2012 22:31

If she asked you to have them for the day, why on earth would you volunteer to have them from Friday to Sunday?! You crazy fool! Grin

You agreed to have her children for the whole weekend, but neither of you agreed any timings. She made arrrangements without clarifying this with you and you left it 'til two days before to tell her what you wanted them collecting. You both need to be a bit clearer with each other in future so there's no assumptions and misunderstanding.

pjmama · 13/06/2012 22:33

when you wanted them collecting - apologies for cack handed typing!

DartsAgain · 13/06/2012 22:33

I'm not surprised you're feeling angry. She really should have clarified what she was asking of you. If I was asked to babysit, I would not be assuming it was for an entire weekend.

glittertree · 13/06/2012 22:36

I agreed because I thought it was being kind to give her a break ...your perhaps right I jut assumed she would phone at the begining of the week to organise it ....Was more pissed off at how cold she was ...argh just trying to keep everyone happy!!

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glittertree · 13/06/2012 22:39

Sorry bloody keyboard is playing up I look a right numpty!!! If it was me I would have phoned her and checked it was ok ...but at the time I was asking I would have made clear that I was travelling away for a weekend...

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 13/06/2012 23:06

Just call her back and say that you're sorry if you upset her, but given that you obviously have, she will no doubt be making other arrangements and that you'll see her around.
Then watch her backtrack and crawl when she realises that she needs you and you don't actually have to mind her children, all weekend, for free, so she can go on a dirty weekend, at all.

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