To be losing hope

[Happilymarried155]

I'm probably just feeling sorry for myself, but we have been ttc for 18 months now without a sniff of pregnancy. The doctor won't do anything until we have been trying for two years and I just feel like its never going to happen.
I can't help but feel if we were going to get pregnant without help we would be by now. Does anyone have any success stories that can give me and dh some hope :)

So sorry OP, I've been there, sucks.

We had to wait three years to be referred for IVF - this follwed a MC and 2 years of TTC but without telling the doctor (we didn't realise we had to - we we weren't anticipating problems). So all in all we were TTC for 5 years - though on and off, as my job changed a couple of times and we faffed for a bit occasionally about whether we were doing the right thing bla bla.

We were eventually due for the referral in August 2010 and conceived in the June.

I hope this helps, keep thinking optimistic thoughts

Cervical Mucus...GOOGLE it, and good luck

I've got a 7 and a half year age gap between my first 2 DS's

I had a lap and dye and they discovered a cyst in my tube, they whipped it out and I was pregnant 2 months later

Have you thought about having a few sessions of acupuncture in the meantime? It's fantastic for fertility issues (obvs not serious ones!!). Good luck and don't lose hope - you only have on chance a month!!

One doh!!

Thanks guys, started Accupuncture this month actually and I have to say its done wonders for my stress levels, so that can only be a good thing!
As for googling cervical mucas, ive spent so much time googling such things I could write for google myself!!

Good to hear some success stories though, I'm off to talk some sense into my self pitying self now!!

I have it once a month (NOT TTC for my back!) and yes great for my stress levels too!!

I know how you feel. We've been trying for nearly a year now and I
Am actually seriously considering stopping trying. We got pregnant with DS stupidly quickly and i never expected this.

I also had a scan of my cervix and ovaries for other reasons just before we started trying and all was clear so I hoped that was a good sign.

I just can't take that feeling of being stuck between places. Between possibly having a baby or instead just being a family of three.

I never wanted children originally then tried for DS one whim and thankfully fell pregnant. I keep thinking why didn't we try earlier?

And I'm just tired of those few days of hope before the period. At least if we stopped while I'd be devastated the pain
Would ease eventually and I'd be certain and rid of that stupid stupid hope.

I'm sorry. On period at present.

You might try reflexology as well. I had a course of reflexology to deal with stress and four months later I was pregnant with DD after 17 years of infertility. It could have been a coincidence of course.

I've been there too OP and it sucks. We tried 'properly' for two years and unofficially for a year or so before that. Thought it was never going to happen, were due to go on the waiting list for IVF last Nov, I got pregnant in October & am due in 10 days.

Could you push your GP for an earlier referral? Not sure if it's the same everywhere but we were referred after 12 months, it just took ages to get the appointment at the clinic.

It sometimes used to make me feel worse reading other peoples stories because I'd think, 'well what if it doesn't happen for us'? But I can remember how shit I felt as everyone I knew seemed to get bloody pregnant and wanted to wish you luck and say don't give up hope!

Hello, just wanted to pop in & offer some tips. I had 3 mc's in 2009. After the 1st one I was determined to get pregnant again very quickly so I did loads of googling & this helped me get pregnant 4 times within a year:

Temp charting- I also used fertility friend online
Grapefruit juice at time of ov
Pre-seed (bought from eBay)
The upsuck method (google it!)
Ov tests

I also had acupuncture after the 3rd mc & fell pregnant with dd2 after 1 session. I carried on having acu until 13 weeks. We decided to try for dc3 when dd2 was 10 months & again used everything described above & fell pregnant 1st time & I gave birth to ds 3 weeks ago. Oh & I'm not exactly a spring chicken either, I'm 43 next month.

Good luck & please don't lose faith.

With DS1 we tried for a couple of years, became obsessed (damn difficult not to) were referred to IVF clinic, and was pregnant by second consultation. I am sure a huge part of that was because the pressure was off - it was in someone else's hands if you like ( and among my friends the same thing happened to 3 of them!) I did also have a lap & dye and I also suspect that that had a part to play. So if you have investigations make the most of them!

DS2 took a couple of years also, but I am now 40, so hardly surprising. Consultant agreed with the tube flushing theory though, did a HSG to flush through my tubes (previously 1 blocked) I did get pregnant after that but had v early MC. He was naturally conceived a few months later, ironically after I had reached my own self imposed "sell by date" ie 40th birthday!!!

May also be worth googling "the foresight plan" by Marilyn Glanville, some interesting stuff there....although going back into the obsessing area perhaps!

Finally, when you do get to see consultant (we were referred to Guys) our experience was that they tried to push us straight to IVF. DH had slow swimming sperm! We insisted on further investigations on me (heavy painful periods) and then attempting to sort out those issues, hence the lap and dye and DH being referred for possible variocele. Take the time if possible to maximise your chances naturally rather than being pressurised to go straight for IVF, as the odds long term may well be better. they certainly were for us.

Good luck! (Christmas is always a good time!)