Have name changed for this just in case
My friend (I will call her P) and I have been the closest of friends for 10 years. In all that time we've only fallen out twice, both times brief. P has always been the closest person to me, we'd talk everyday and see each other once a week at the very least.
A few years ago P met her now DH, fell pregnant unexpectedly and had her DS who I adore. I was absolutely delighted for her, was there for her throughout her pregnancy, helping her with her DS when needed, and with money issues. I expected that when she had her baby we'd probably see less of each other, but knew we'd remain friends in the same way. It didn't seem to happen that way at all, and we were still very close.
Then I fell pregnant and was due to give birth around her wedding - I attended and gave birth 3 days after! Now we both had DS's I again expected we may perhaps both be too busy to see each other as much as before, though hoped it wouldn't work out that way.
My concerns are, now she's married, she seems to be not 'allowed' to socialise as much. We see eachother a lot less, although we both aren't working so really there's not that much of an excuse. She avoids a lot of my offers to meet up, but when we do, she always has to answer to her husband. For example, we took the boys swimming, then I offered to take her for lunch when we'd finish. She rang her DH to check, and had a bit of an argument over it. She told me he was annoyed as he'd wanted her to come home, then she left lunch early to get back to him. She's told me he never asks permission or lets her know if he goes out with friends.
She doesnt get out the house a lot, and it seems strange to me that she always has to answer to her DH when she does. I've never been married, I'm single, so don't feel it's my place to say what's right or wrong in a marriage. AIBU to be concerned?