Or is my MIL?

[katy4]

DS is 10 months. MIL has seen his a total of 12 times since he was born, she lives 5 mins from us.
We have always got on well-or so I thought..I was expecting her to be around lots, she came with me to scan, antenatal appointments etc.
Just before ds was born she met a new partner who she now is getting married to.
She says she has no free time (she doesn't work).
Times she has seen ds have been arranged by me and I take him to her. She seems to have zero interest in him and does'nt really interact with him but always takes loads of photos for other people to see.
She sees her other grandchild (BIL's daughter) once a week and always has done.
AIBU to feel really let down and confused? Don't know how to deal with this, her and DH don't have a great relationship and he says doesn't want to rock the boat by confronting her about it

maybe she has read about unwanted and interfering MILs on here and is trying to keep you happy..

there is no need to "confront" her.. just make her feel as welcome as possible

She is interested in her new life with her new man. Whilst she shouldnt live in your pocket, if he wasnt there, she would be more interested.
I wouldnt confront her.
She will reap what she sows.
For the record, when my mil hasnt a boyfriend, she cant spend enough time here. When she has, we dont hear much from her.

I really do make her welcome and always have, we have always been good friends and quite close, although she seems to have cut me along with a lot of her other friends out of her new life. Can very rarely get to speak to her now.

I just don't understand why she has time for her other grandchild but not my son?

What does your partner think?

When I saw I was 'expecting' her to be around..this was my belief as she showed a lot of interest when I was pg and has always been v. involved with my niece, I realise she doesn't have any obligation.

My partner is v v disappointed as they have never been close and he believed the baby would make their relationship better and she would want to spend more time with him. He gets angry about it and is hurt.

Perhaps the other grandchild is older and easier to interact with? And perhaps she simply has more of an established relationship/routine with her.

I wouldn't worry too much as she is obviously proud of the new baby, showing photos round etc.

I had no contact with my grandmother for over 15 years but she had pictures of me in her living room. So don't think that says anything. Some people just 'forget' others when they are not in front of them. She is probably just caught up in her new life and will be more involved once things settle.