Night out

[Lovemychocolate]

Not sure if I am being unreasonable or not but feel really upset. I have a 3yo and a 4mo, it is my birthday soon and my mum and dad are unable to babysit ....no big deal. I rarely go out (about three times in last year). My mum said she would babysit the following weekend and DH and I could do with night off about a month ago. We booked a restaurant, I bought an outfit and was really looking forward to it ..... Then my younger sibling rang and asked my mum to babysit so my mum said yes and rang me to tell me she couldn't now babysit for me. He has asked for a whole weekend, I asked could we compromise so I could have either the Friday or the Saturday nday but no he wanted both. It is not the first time that this has happened. I am fuming and upset that she obviously thinks so little of me. Is it just me being hormonal or Am I right to feel upset

YANBU. I think if the arrangement was set up then your mum shouldn't have dropped you to look after your bros DCs.

I would be upset in your position too. Does you DB live near you?

I would have gone mental.

If my mum was unwell or just doing feel up to it I wouldn't mind her cancelling, but to cancel to look after other grandchildren screams favouritism

YANBU at all. Does she know how upset you are? Is there any chance she could look after them all together?

get your dad to babysit for you then while your mum does her babysitting at your brothers..

yanbu either..

Hi my brother lives about an hour and a half away and my mum lives an hour from me so about two and a half hours from my brother. To be fair I and she make the effort to see each other about once a fortnight. My brother is very selfish in that respect and while my mum visits him about every six weeks he has been to my parents once in the last two years. None of my extended family have met his DS who is nearly two. I realise I am easier to offend and make amends to but this is not first time and so some reason this time it has really upset me

YANBU

Did you confront her? What was her reasoning?

If you haven't, confront her now.

Thanks for the replies everyone.she knows I am upset. My dad would be unhappy looking after either my two or my nephew .... He has never changed a nappy.

If she was ill or my brother really needed her in an emergency I would be the first to say not to worry but it just feels she has chosen to upset me over him.
Don't think my brother would be happy with my two at his or vice versa as he is big on routines for his dc.

The worst thing is I am not speaking to my mum now and I know I will be first to ring and say lets just forget all the upset.... I am weak like that.

Ivanapoo.... My mum said sorry to let you down but gave no reasons. Take it she thinks my brother would get annoyed and stop her seeing her grandson whereas she knows I never would

I think it's time you show your mum you're not the one she can always offend.

Tell her exactly what you said in your first post and explain how upset you are.

The way she is letting you down is really unfair.

And make sure you go on your night out as well - can a friend babysit or can you treat yourself to a sitter?