We always said we were going to holiday abroad this year but after much faffing decided we couldn't afford it and so opted for one of the Scottish islands for a week and booked a cottage, 3 bedrooms, one of which will be surplus to requirements as there is only myself, DP and DD - but we were limited as we left it so late to book.
We go next Friday and we're really looking forward to having some time out, have both been quite stressed and busy lately.
Cottage is 8 hours drive for us. My DP's genuinely lovely parents kept asking if we were going to break the journey by staying with them for a night each end of the holiday, but it would mean us zig zagging across the country so we politely declined. They are not in Scotland, so still a five hour drive away from the cottage. We see them a lot despite being there being 200 miles between us - they stayed with us two weeks ago. Sometimes they stay just a little bit too long for DP's comfort IYSWIM but they are really nice, and they worship DD and they do a lot to help us.
However, they have now decided to join us on holiday for two nights. We didn't invite them, they just decided themselves that they were going to get the ferry and come over. I was a bit "hmmmm" but DP is really cross. He has a point - it's our holiday, and if we wanted a holiday with extended family we'd have booked one. We wanted a bit of an escape and a rest but now we are going to be entertaining again when we just wanted to slob out a bit. They are very much "sit down at the dining table for a proper meal with starters and sude plates and napkins" people whereas we are looking forward to fish and chips and a beer in front of the telly. And it's not like the weather is great atm, so likelihood is that we will be spending time in the cottage rather than massive days out.
It's our only holiday this year, and they will be arriving three days before the end of our holiday and staying until the day before we go home.
He wants to say something to them, and I don't want them to be upset, but he's really not happy and it's casting a bit of a shadow over the whole thing. They shouldn't have just invited themselves.
So AWBU and selfish? I know there will be those of you who say "what harm will it do for two nights?" but that's one third of our time away, and it's OUR time. It's not as if we never see them. But I am feeling very guilty about the whole thing, as they are nice and we love them.