To want dm to ourselves?

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DM is visiting us in a couple of weeks, just for 3or 4 days. At same time my cousin will be visiting city nearby for medical treatment. Cousin lives near my mum, they are quite close and see each other regularly. Cousin has suggested to dm that we travel to see her on the one day we have free. Aibu to think-piss off, she's here to see us? (cousin won't be on her own in other city, he r dh will be there too)

You're being very unreasonable and very childish. Your cousin is family too. You need to get over yourself.

Just tell her you want your mum to yourself! How close are you to this cousin, does she want to visit with you or your mum. If she doesn't see much of you maybe she is trying to make the most of being nearby?

I'd be honest, and say you only have the one day free and you don't want to be travelling.

I would say to your cousin you had rather hoped to have some mother daughter bonding time as you dont see a lot of your mother and that your sure she will understand!

Maybe she wants reassurance of a friendly face when she is having medical treatment in an unfamiliar city? Maybe she thought, as another poster said, that it would be nice to see you while she is in the area?

YABU as you don't know her reasoning behind this, but YWNBU to call her and explain that you were really looking forward to some time with DM alone and could you come and see her sometime soon.

Pinky red rose, of course cousin is family too, but my mumsees her about once a month, we get to see mum maybe twice a year? I have suggested cousin come to us?

Just to be clear, cousin isn.t ill. They are having an elective procedure.

What a strange OP

Is there some sort of 'history' between you and your cousin?

Why should there be history just because the OP wants to spend time with her own mother? Weird you would think there would be.

OP YANBU but need to handle with tact so your cousin doesn't get offended.

None, love her to bits. I just thought it was a bit odd of her to ask my mum to spend one of only 2 full days she has with us travelling for 2 hours each way to visit my cousin who she'll see at home any way?

If cousin wanted to see me surely she would speak to me about it?

we wouldn't be able to go anyway, I have an appointment I have to go to in middle of day.

Needy? Is it really needy to want to spend time with my mum when I haven't seen her since christmas? If it is then ok I'm being needy.
Not jealous though.

YANBU at all! If your DM didn't see your cousin very often then that would be a different story.

Plan something - which could easily be cancelled later - that means you can't visit.

I don't think it is needy to want to see your mum, without company, for a bit.

Fair enough, the 'piss off' bit was a bit much

Perhpas sh wants to see you?
I dont think its terribly unreasonable to want some quality time with you mum, but dont go in al guns blazing. Tell mum you have planned something for that dya, hadnt let on earlier as wanted it to be a surprise. then go plan something, far away from where cousin will be and which she couldnt just come to unbooked.

Depends how often you see your Mum.

Three/for days isn't long.

Do you see much of your cousin?

Maybe your cousin would like to see you aswell.

I don't see much of my cousins these days but it's nice when i do.

Yanbu at all IMO.

Your cousin sees your mum all the time, wtf does she need a visit when it's one of your rare times to see your mum.

Fwiw I see my grandparents all the time and wouldn't dream of encroaching on a visit from my cousins who see them a lot less.